Client Has Lucid Dream!

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A client of mine has a very active dream life. Just for the record, I generally do not. I mention that in case anybody reading this wishes theirs were more active. If that’s the case, I wouldn’t worry about it too much…

So my client emailed me recently telling me about what I assume was her first “lucid dream.” For those who don’t know, a lucid dream is a dream in which the dreamer becomes aware that they’re dreaming – while still dreaming! So you’re asleep having a dream and then you sort of “wake up” in the dream and are totally conscious of what’s going on. But your physical body is still sound asleep. Pretty wild…

My client was dreaming that she was at somebody’s wedding, and one of the guests was her youngest sister who had died several years ago. This is what tipped her off that it was a dream – she actually had the thought, “Wait – you’ve died, so this must be a dream!” When she woke up, she had a lovely feeling and really enjoyed the experience.

My reply was that this was a very cool experience, indeed, but to not make too much out of it. As I’ve said before, I believe 100% that we are not a physical body, but rather a spiritual being. I know that sounds vague, but we are using words, after all, which have some vagueness built-in… So if we are spirit (and remember this is a logical math major talking), then this lucid dreaming experience can’t be too surprising. After all, premonition dreams happen! My mom even had one that I only learned about after I had written about one that a friend had had. It’s just that not too many people have these experiences overall, which makes them more interesting. I told my client that there’s lots of material out there on the subject, so study it or practice if you want. And of course act on any messages or guidance of you feel compelled to do so. Just make sure to keep a relaxed attitude overall. Many people have these types of experiences and end up thinking they’re extra special or better because of them. That ain’t true…

I first heard of lucid dreaming years ago from a college roommate. He got way into something called Tibetan Dream Yoga a few years after we had graduated. He studied it and practiced some exercises he had learned, and it worked – he had some lucid dreams. The Tibetan Dream Yoga folks, who believe in reincarnation, believe that if you get really good at this then you can train yourself to be lucid at the moment of death and choose not to reincarnate again. I do not believe this myself, but I won’t go into detail about that here. Either way, I think it’s a super cool subject and I generally love anything that expands our minds and our beliefs about what’s possible.

A lucid dream is exactly the type of “freaky experience” that people have but don’t talk about much due to the stigma in our society. It’s wild what you might find when you start asking around. This is especially true in the age of the internet. But when you meet these people and know them personally, knowing they’re not freaks but rather normal, honest people, it takes it to another level. So I’m very happy to share these type of experiences here, and I’ll continue to do so as they come in. Happy dreaming, and feel free to share your experiences with me!

My Mom Had A Premonition Dream!

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A while back I wrote about a jaw-dropping experience that a friend of mine had, having a very vivid dream and then re-living the dream in exact detail the next day (read Premonition Dreams). The day after writing that, I got an email from my mom saying that she once had a premonition dream. She said that although it was back in 1968, forty-five years ago, she remembers it like it was just yesterday. That’s the first sign that it might be something other than a normal dream. She also said that as the dream was being played out the next day, it felt like she was watching a movie. So cool… And for those of you who don’t know my mom, I don’t think she could ever be called “flaky” or “untrustworthy” or anything like that. Many of my readers know her, and they would certainly agree. It’s pretty wild when you start talking about things like this that nobody really talks about. People come out of the woodwork sharing their experiences. One of my jobs is to talk about these things out in the open, no different than talking about sports or the weather. Because is it really any different?

So it was 1968, five years before my time, and my dad’s Aunt Virginia had just passed away. On the day before the funeral, family gathered at the house and various friends came by. My mom’s job was to greet people at the door and to try to set as cheery a tone as possible. The family absolutely didn’t want a bunch of depressed people hanging around. People could act that way at the funeral the next day if they wanted, but not at the house. It sounds like it was more of a celebration of life, and my mom was at the door to set the tone as people stopped by.

The night before, my mom dreamed in vivid detail about the next day. She was standing at the front door, doing her job as greeter, when a woman who worked for Uncle Terry came rushing in with a guest book from the funeral home. She was saying, “Here is the book for everyone to sign.” Mom knew in the dream that this was the last thing the family wanted, and it was up to her to prevent it.

Fast forward to the next day, and everything is as planned with my mom at the front door greeting people as they stopped by. And then what happened? The dream began in front of her very eyes! This is when she said it felt like she was literally watching a movie. It was exact. It was the same. It had already happened. The same lady who worked for Uncle Terry rushed in with the guest book from the funeral home saying the same thing – “Here is the book for everyone to sign.” Mom felt like the dream had prepared her to politely say that the family would prefer that the book stay at the funeral home to be signed the next day at the funeral. And all worked out just fine.

So there are two questions. First of all, did this really happen? And if so, what’s the meaning? Answering the first question is where I appreciate having a logical mind that’s fairly open-minded. Many people, especially those claiming to be logical, would say right away that that’s crazy talk. When people you know and trust have these experiences, though, it seems less and less crazy. Recall from my first article on this subject that of all the accounts of this phenomenon happening, it only takes one of them in the history of the world to be true to mean there’s something to it. One. Of the seven billion people alive today and all those who came before, there are tons of these accounts. Tons. And only one has to have been true. So the logical answer to our first question, “Did this really happen?,” is an emphatic and resounding, “Yes!”

That leaves us with the meaning. As I said in that first article I wrote on this subject, the main thing to take away is really just to keep a very open mind and know that we don’t really know how the world works. Mainstream science doesn’t know, that’s for sure. And that’s fine. We can open up to some deeper possibilities. We can let magic happen. We don’t have to know all the answers, and we don’t have to pretend that we do. That’s stressful, anyway. So relax, do your best, and let it unfold. Have the best intentions you can for all involved and you should be fine.

Here’s a little preview of where a conversation like this might go when I get my next blog, A Deep Mind, rolling. And I haven’t started it yet, so no time soon… A Course In Miracles says that what we’re actually doing here on earth is merely “reviewing mentally what has gone by.” If that’s true, then premonition dreams just got explained in six simple words! And don’t get freaked out. The Course also says that we never left our real home of perfect love and oneness and that we are simply having a dream of separation. Perfect love… where have I heard that before? Oh – from just about every spiritual teacher, including Jesus. Maybe there’s something to it? That doesn’t do much for the Old Testament’s cause, though…

So we didn’t even leave our real home, but since we think we’re here in these separate bodies, this is where our work must be done. And what is our work? To restore our mind to its original condition of total peace. Then we wake up and realize it was just a dream. And we’re in oneness now, which is totally mind blowing by the way (so don’t bother trying to “understand it”). It includes all and excludes none. Anything you’ve ever loved is there, but better than ever. There are no problems, no separation. And how interesting it is that the folks who have near death experiences and out of body experiences generally say how incredibly awesome it is on the other side and that we should stop worrying so much while we’re here. And there are tons of these folks, especially with our advanced medical capabilities of “bringing people back.” When you start talking about this, people come out of the woodwork, people who are normal, intelligent, and not even “woo-woo” (not that there’s anything wrong with that). Just ask around. In the meantime, sweet dreams.

Premonition Dreams

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I mentioned premonition dreams in a recent blog post, Answer Comes In A Dream, pt. 2. This is not meant to be anything exhaustive about the subject, but rather just a taste. Actually, it’s more a recounting of a mind-blowing dream experience that a good friend of mine once had. There’s plenty of material out there for you to check out premonition dreams if you’d like. To start with, just google it or even google Larry Dossey, MD. He’s pretty cool.

And before we get into it, let me say that I absolutely LOVE when weird things happen that we can’t explain. When something happens that we can’t explain, we can either pretend it didn’t happen or we can just admit that our knowledge at this point doesn’t have an answer. Mainstream science unfortunately tends to do the former, as astonishing as that sounds. You’d think that scientists would be very open-minded, but often they’re just the opposite, fiercely defending their current view of how things work. When the same weird thing has happened enough times to enough different people, though, it’s time stop pretending that nothing has happened. It might just be that we really don’t understand how the world works. This thought can be unsettling at first, but when you get used to it, it’s quite liberating. We can just go with the flow more and not have to think that we know everything. Because we totally don’t…

I’ll be writing more about this “fringe science” stuff in the future. It has such great implications about the question, “How does the world really work?” One of the implications of studies done with random number generators, for instance, is that our thoughts are not private and that “mind over matter” happens in measurable ways. I know that most of the world believes that thoughts are private and cannot effect matter, but that’s actually not true. The evidence doesn’t support it. So that’s a little preview. You can always read the book The Field by Lynne McTaggart if you’d like – it’s pretty wild in terms of some of the interesting science that’s happened.

If you google “premonition dreams,” you’ll see that they’re dreams in which the dreamer dreams about something that ends up really happening. There are plenty of well known examples, like the 1966 coal accident in Aberfan, Wales or even the events of September 11, 2001. When we read about this stuff second hand, we can say that maybe it’s all made up. Then we keep researching and find more and more examples where there are multiple people involved who can verify the story. At that point, it takes an awful lot of people making an awful lot of stuff up in order for you to keep ignoring the phenomenon. Eventually, the scales of your own personal belief might tip in favor of there being something of substance to this. And then what might happen? You might meet people who have had the experience. That’s what I’m going to share today. And I’m talking about people who are honest and not at all crazy. It could even be a family member. It could be someone you’d least expect. When this happens, just allow your beliefs to change if they want to – you’ll get used to the new beliefs over time.

A friend of mine once had a premonition dream that quite literally blew his mind. He dreamed something and then it happened. Exactly like in the dream. First of all, know that this is the kind of person who is totally honest, trustworthy, dependable, not weird, not exaggerating, and definitely not looking for any headlines or extra attention. He prefers to fly under the radar – that’s just how he rolls. A great guy. He’s extremely intelligent, as well as very logical in his thinking. He probably hasn’t even told many people about this. So when someone like that tells me of this freaky experience, I tend to listen – that’s just me being logical. I’m thinking, “It looks like there’s something to this, and our rules of how things work have to expand in order to explain how this could happen.” No more pretending or ignoring.

So my friend had a dream that he described as being “incredibly vivid,” much more vivid than his normal dreams. And by the way, that’s often a sign that a dream is not just a normal dream. Remind me to write about “visitations” in the future, by the way. A person might also remember these abnormal dreams much more than s/he would remember normal dreams. That was the case with the client mentioned above who found his answer to a situation in a dream (read Answer Comes In A Dream).

On the night of the dream that my friend had, there was a “crazy, monster storm” at the beach. He and the others in the house even slept with the windows and doors open in order to better experience it (the house is built in such a way that you can do this when it’s raining). He said he remembers going to bed “in awe of nature.” He’s not a tree hugger, either – not that there’s anything wrong with that. I just want to cover all the bases. This was one of those times when Mother Nature was wailing and showing us humans who’s really in charge. That’s how hurricanes are down here, by the way.

During the night, he dreamed that he was walking along the beach. Towards the end of the dream, he looked to his right out into the water and he saw a shark. The shark was swimming alongside him as he walked. This continued for a while, and when he got to the end of his walk, he and the shark looked at each other and then the shark took a hard right and swam out to sea.

My friend awoke from this dream, and it was very early in the morning. Nobody else in the house was up yet, so he walked across the street to the Gulf of Mexico. By the way, he said this was “highly unusual” for him. He said he didn’t know why he did this; it just felt like the thing to do. There are boardwalks going over the dunes to the Gulf, and as he crested the boardwalk, he noticed a few things that were the same as the beginning of the dream, small things like birds flying, the various sounds, and how the water looked. He was shocked, curious, and a little skeptical, because the thought he was thinking was that this was not similar to the dream but exact. It was literally the same experience.

His intention from the beginning was just to go for a casual walk on the beach, so he did that but with much more awareness because of the weirdness that he was experiencing. He said that “all of these relatively little things kept lining up, like the sea oats and the driftwood.” He was aware that they were exactly as they were in the dream, but in the back of his mind he kept thinking, “This is crazy, but these are all little things. Am I going to see that shark??”

As he walked, he felt more and more “in the flow” and said that it got very comfortable. When he had walked far enough and turned around to walk back to the boardwalk, the whole experience was getting “more amped up, like the hair on my arms was rising.” Finally, he got the courage to look out to the water to his right and sure enough, there was the shark! He continued to walk down the beach, glancing at it here and there for a good fifty yards. Then when he got back to the starting point at the boardwalk, he realized that was when the dream ended. At this point in the dream, he would stop, take a good look at the shark, and then the shark would take a hard right and swim out to sea.

This is where it gets interesting. Remember that as he first crested the boardwalk, before his toes even touched the sand, he had the thought that he was experiencing the dream exactly. And even after all of these initial small things lined up, and then there were more and more of them, and then the big thing – the shark – lined up, and with everything feeling “definitely heightened, significantly different than normal awareness,” he was still skeptical. I told you in the beginning that this is not the kind of person who goes around making things up. He’s a very straight-up dude. So he still felt like it hadn’t been totally confirmed that he was re-experiencing the dream. He thought, “It could all still be in my head.” He said, “I had to face it directly, but I wasn’t sure how it would end if I did. Finally I looked directly at the shark, there was a strong connection, a pause, and then a release.” And with that, the shark took a hard right and swam out to sea. Exactly like it did in the dream. Exactly. Pretty cool…

The question now is, did this happen or did it not? We’re going to assume that it did, and here’s why. I’d already done lots of research before I heard this story, and I already believed without a doubt that this happens. I might not be the sharpest knife in the drawer, but I know logic pretty well because I have two math degrees. It gets pounded in your head after a while. In advanced math, we prove and disprove things all the time. So we’ve been taught that it only takes one of these accounts to be true to mean that this phenomenon is real. One! And if this is real, then our worldview, our explanation of how things work, must include it – so science must include it. If there’s nothing to this, then every single one of these accounts throughout human history has to have been wrong. To me, the chances they’re all wrong is simply ridiculous. Laughable. Probability very near zero.

So we’re going to be logical and assume that from time to time, people have accurate dreams of the future. Our next question, then, might be, “What does this mean?” It looks like I’m going to eventually have another blog called A Deep Mind for the deeper issues. There, we’ll talk about the nature of time. It might not work as we tend to think. For now, though, I think that the main lesson is that we really don’t know what’s going on. And that’s good news! We can chill out and not pretend that we do. As a logical person who has done lots of research on this type of thing and who is not limited to a certain belief system, I can say for sure that some very, very strange things happen in this world. “Spiritual” and “mystical” experiences absolutely happen. And the more you look, the more you find. And as I said above, it doesn’t all have to be true – far from it, in fact. Only one of a given experience or phenomenon has to be true to show us that our laws of how things work need to be updated. One. So we can let go of the need to understand everything. We can let go of the need to control everything. And that’s a good place to be when you get more and more used to it. It takes a lot of work and energy to have to understand everything. I guess I’m often reminded here in these writings of Dr. Larry Burk’s catchphrase, “Let Magic Happen.”

P.S. My friend had another premonition dream a few years later, but it wasn’t nearly as vivid as this one. I think he said it was separated by more time, too, like maybe a week or two after the dream. What he dreamed about definitely happened, though – there was no doubt about that. That dream alone might not seem so definitive, but together with the shark dream, the evidence keeps piling up. And this is just one person out of many. There are over seven billion people on earth now, and most people don’t advertise these experiences. They totally happen – you can take that to the bank. And it’s good news! Let go of your worldview if it’s outdated and just be open to life showing you another one at the right time that works better. And as always, let me know if I can help. I love this stuff…

P.P.S. My own worldview had actually already changed, based on lots of spiritual study and other research, by the time I heard this story several years ago. It had changed in such a way that this story actually made perfect sense. It only affirmed what I already believed. So when I heard this story, it was no more weird than hearing a story about a sports game or the weather. It was more fun, but not any more strange. If I had heard it at a different time in my life, though, my reaction likely would have been much different. So our worldview tends to change and evolve over time. That’s why the key is to be open-minded. Just let it evolve as needed without having to control it. That’s the faster way. Enjoy the ride!

Answer Comes In A Dream, pt. 2

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I wrote recently about a client who kept releasing on a major issue that he had been having with his dad. Finally, and quite unexpectedly, the answer came to him in the form of a very realistic dream. If you haven’t read it, it’s pretty fascinating, to say the least (read Answer Comes In A Dream). I thought you might be interested in the follow-up, so here it is.

My client ended up finally calling his dad, who lives far away, for the first time in maybe a year. Are you ready for what happened? It went just like it did in the dream. Cool. My client explained that he had gotten all of his dad’s messages and texts over that year, and he explained exactly why he hadn’t been ready to respond at the time. His dad was very apologetic for his past behaviors, and he was extremely happy to be in contact with his son again. The whole thing worked like a charm. My client said that he was totally calm, because he felt like he was reading from a script. Of course the script was the contents of a dream from about a month prior.

Here’s the cool thing… My client said, “My dad’s reaction, including the tone, was the weirdest part because it was so close to the dream.” Awesome! Magic really does happen, folks, when we let it. It happens on its schedule, though, and not ours. I’ve tried demanding that it happen according to how I thought it should happen, and that doesn’t work – take my word for it. It was a thorough effort on my part, though…

This reminds me of premonition dreams, which are pretty mind-blowing. That’s when you have a dream and then realize later when you’re awake that your life at that moment is exactly like what you dreamed earlier. Exactly. This will be a separate blog post, though. The main focus on this one isn’t dreams, per se, because the dream was just the vehicle for the magic, for the answer. The point here is that when we do our inner work first by releasing on our problems, the outer world can follow in ways we can’t even imagine. As I’ve mentioned before, though, here’s the trick – we can’t do the releasing in order to bring about the outer changes. If you catch yourself doing that, and I do all the time, then just laugh and release those slick efforts, too. Release anything and everything that might resemble an inner knot in any way. If it’s tight, then let it go. Let go, let go, let go. Then deal with the outer world in an appropriate way. When we do this, we never know what will happen. It might even come in the form of a dream.

Answer Comes In A Dream

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I talk a lot about how the fast way of handling our issues is to do inner work first (read Inner vs. Outer). Release those inner knots first and then do what needs to be done in the outer world after that. And always keep releasing as long as you need to. This is the downstream way, flowing with the current. I’ve talked about how we can’t expect amazing results, but we often get them anyway. And sometimes they come in ways we couldn’t have possibly scripted ourselves. Truth really can be stranger than fiction, as they say. One of my clients recently had one of those experiences. This is pretty cool…

So my client had had a falling out with his dad a while back, like maybe a year ago or close to it. He very much wants to reconcile with him, but he’s been unsure of how exactly to do this. I’ve always said to just keep releasing, keep letting go, and let the answer come when it’s time. Well, apparently it’s time. The answer has come, and the form in which it came was pretty astonishing – a dream.

My client had a very, very vivid dream in which he was back home with his family and he said to his dad, “We have to talk.” They went into a different room and talked, and it went very well. When he awoke, he realized, “I have the answer!” He said that he usually doesn’t remember his dreams very well, but this was like no other dream – he remembered it crystal clear. And he’s going to say to his dad exactly what he said in the dream. He was literally given the exact answer to this problem that had been weighing on him for a while. Hells yeah!

He also said that when he awoke, he felt “so great and peaceful and… free. It was so awesome.” He had had that feeling once before about five years ago, and that was when he had been meditating, I believe with a spiritual group. He had meditated more than once with them, but this one particular time he had gotten to a totally different place, a place of total peace and freedom. This is how he felt the morning after the dream. And he said that it ended up being  “a great day,” despite the fact that he works a very busy, stressful job and that day he worked with a particularly stressful co-worker. He releases on her a lot, by the way…

So that’s the story. Pretty darn cool. It’s an extreme example of the possibilities that are out there for you. I realize there are plenty of people out there who have vivid dream lives and remember their dreams quite well. Something different happened to my client, though, because he normally doesn’t remember his dreams so well. And the feeling he had when he awoke, that same feeling he had experienced once before in meditation… that signaled that there was something different going on. By consistently releasing when he felt he needed to, he was able to untie those inner knots surrounding the issue with his father and, as my friend Dr. Larry Burk says, Let Magic Happen. Is this really my job?? I love it!