So yesterday we talked about the radical idea of having – and feeling – legitimate gratitude for coronavirus. And how that’s like shining a super bring light on it, speeding up its journey back to the light from which it came. I know this may sound radical, if not crazy, to many people. And they might wonder if we can really affect the outer world with such a practice. So I wanted to talk briefly about that today.
Let’s get right to it… Science from around 100 years ago says that you can’t NOT affect the outer world. That’s because it’s all connected. Simply by being aware of something, you affect it. What? Simply by looking at something or thinking about something, you change it. Because you are part of it. I’m no quantum physicist, but these are the implications of their discoveries in the early 1900’s.
A classic book that’s written by a non-scientist (so it’s actually very readable) is The Dancing Wu-Li Masters by Gary Zukav. You can also search the web, because there’s lots more recent stuff out there. But the idea is that since everything in the universe is literally connected at the deepest level, your awareness of something affects it. The only question is how much. Now, it may be a very small effect. But to ask how large the effect is versus IS there an effect at all? Those are two very different questions. And I’d rather be asking how large the effect is. So I wanted to really ground us in the fact that we can’t NOT affect something that we’re aware of; it’s just not possible. If we’re putting any of our attention onto something, then it is changed in some way. Isn’t that interesting? I sure think so!
So this post is mainly just a brief reminder of this very old science. It gets you thinking differently, and with more power. Also remember that spending any amount of time feeling grateful for certain aspects of this coronavirus situation sure is a vacation from worrying about it. And I’m not pretending this isn’t happening! I’m handling things as they arise, and in the best manner possible at the time. I’m being as smart about this as I can. And of course when worry arises in me, I love. But I’m trying to spend the rest of my time in this better feeling state. And it’s been feeling pretty food so far.
We have the inner and the outer. The outer is taking care of business, TCB. Getting your stuff done. Helping others. You get the idea. Just be appropriate in the world, be normal. But the inner is more how you see things, along with feeling gratitude for what you see. My work mostly involves the inner (using self-love first), but please know that it’s never at the expense of the outer. And the more we do this inner work, the more we tend to show up brighter and shinier in the outer world. It’s a win-win.
So keep this in mind, just be open to it. It really is fascinating. If you have some time on your hands, you might look into this “deep stuff” some more. Search “popular quantum physics” or “popular quantum mechanics” and see what comes up. Just do it for fun. I’ve always wondered why we’re still viewing things as being so separate, though, over a century after the discovery of oneness. That doesn’t make much sense. And the ancient spiritual folks have talked about how we’re all one for millenia. So this might be something good that comes from the coronavirus, a deeper understanding of reality. Who knows? It’s time we update how we see things, though, that’s for sure. And now many of us have more time on our hands to use to do this.
Speaking of which, I’ll be sharing how I’ve been spending more of my time pretty soon. It’s my “triple threat,” and it feels amazing. And powerful. I do this when I wake up in the morning, before I get out of bed, as well as any other time the thought crosses my mind. I definitely do it before and after I go shopping, and in the store as well. I don’t know if it’s helping, but so far, so good. And it makes me feel good, anyway, so I can’t argue with that. One part of it is our radical gratitude from the last post. So stayed tuned, hang in there, and we’ll get through this together. Keep up with focusing on your transformation (how this can actually help you), and give that radical gratitude a try as well. And as always, I’m here to help if I can. Using Zoom for web sessions, of course…
Okay folks, let’s talk gratitude. But not your grandparents’ gratitude. This one is fierce and powerful. That’s because the energyof gratitude is very, very strong. You might say it’s of an incredibly “high vibration.” Fear, on the other hand, is of a very “low vibration.” Think about a ridiculously bright and powerful state-of-the-art LED spotlight versus a weak flashlight from the 80’s with questionable batteries. Which one would you rather use to light up a big space?
The name of the game is viewing anything – anything – with more gratitude and less fear. And “viewing” means shining that light on it, the strong one or the weak one. That’s why you might’ve heard the phrase, “the light of awareness.” And I’m not pretending that we won’t have fear. But we already know what to do – when a part of us is afraid, we love that part on the spot as I talked about in our first corona post. Hands on heart and breathe love into your heart if you can. Else do it with eyes open and looking normal. That’s always first – loving what arises. So that handles fear as it arises – or anger, sadness, despair, hopelessness, confusion, insecurity, you name it.
Once that has been done to a sufficient degree, we do our best to shift to gratitude. And it has to be authentic, as a feeling in the body. We find something about the coronavirus that we feel grateful for. It doesn’t have to be the whole thing, but just one thing, big or small. I’ll give some examples below. And we even say, “Thank you coronavirus for [blank].” And if the words “Thank you coronavirus…” are triggering then you return to love. Then you continue with the gratitude. Just keep breathing and keep practicing this, and it should become more natural. And over time, gratitude will be anchored more and more deeply.
Just saying “thank you” and “coronavirus” in the same sentence is an evolutionary shift from what the world is doing. And we’re evolving beyond what the world is and has been doing. Remember, that’s the whole point of this. It’s a huge shift, a very uncomfortable jolt. But there is a plan. The world is not healthy now, and it hasn’t been for a very long time. And yes, I agree that this is extreme! I didn’t invent it or decide on it, but I’m absolutely doing my best to understand it and master it, so as to speed this whole thing up as much as possible. And to smooth it out as much as possible.
When we say, “Thank you coronavirus,” it sends a very bright light to the coronavirus. And that’s what we want. It’ll eventually return to the light from which it came (all things do – more on this in a post coming soon), so we’re literally speeding this process up. And I don’t know about you, but I’d prefer that we speed this up! So we learn to use gratitude. And… why not try this as a science experiment just to see how you feel? There’s nothing to be lost by experimenting.
Note: This brings us to an old superstition that if you speak it aloud, it gets magnified. Not true. Maybe this was true before, but it is definitely outdated now. I know because I’ve been doing this exact practice with other things, this radical gratitude for tough stuff, for the last couple/few months. And I’ve seen some crazy things shift, in my own life and when I’ve done it on behalf of someone I know, like a friend or client. Literally like magic. It’s crazy, and it has really gotten my attention. This stuff definitely seems to work. I started this gratitude practice only this year, as I said, and now I see that it was preparation for using it on the coronavirus. A quick boot camp. And like many things, I learned it from Matt Kahn. And he learned it from the universe.
So make no mistake about it, saying “thank you coronavirus” sends light and awakening to coronavirus. And that’s exactly what we want. When we’re afraid to say it out loud, we’re back in fear. And that literally slows down time. Gratitude speeds it up. Which is what we want. Just give it a try. Because it’s here, and we have no idea how long it will be around. So why not try something that seems radical? Do your homework on gratitude, and you’ll see that most paths of spirituality or personal growth and development make a big deal about it. Let’s try it here and see if that’s actually true.
So what might we be grateful for about the coronavirus? Let’s try to find some things, which I mentioned in a previous post. It is causing the world to simplify. It is causing the world to slow down. It is causing us to connect more with ourselves (because when we slow down, this is what happens). It is causing the world to come together more. It is causing the world to find joy in simpler things, like nature. It is causing nature to be healthier. Check out the blue skies in China or the clear water and dolphins in Venice. It is causing us to re-examine our financial structures. It is causing us to re-examine our current manufacturing system (relying on China). It is causing us to re-examine toilet paper. The bidet crowd is feeling good about themselves right now, by the way… It is causing us to re-examine our health system. And it most definitely causing us to re-examine how we handle pandemics and novel viruses, which could save us if and when one comes along that’s a much bigger threat than this one is.
There are plenty more things to feel grateful for, and you’ll have examples that are specific to you. If coronavirus has brought about one good thing in your life, put it on the list. And this is why I wrote the last post about always focusing on your transformation when tough things happen. Whatever those things are, and the list will probably grow over time, they are things that you can feel gratitude for.
So how do we put this into practice? Pick one thing to be grateful for. Then with eyes open or closed, say, “Thank you coronavirus for [that one thing]. Thank you.” Then FEEL the feeling of gratitude in your body as you breathe in and out, this is important. Really let it flow. It might even start to feel like the cells of your body are taking an energetic bath; that’s the high vibration working its magic. Repeat this as much or as often as you like. Then go to something else on the list and do the same. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. But if you are saying this and feeling the feeling – that’s huge – you can know that something is happening. It feels amazing after a while – and powerful. That’s what I’ve noticed. It feels like you’re blasting a bright light on coronavirus and on the world, on this whole situation.
And you know what, what if none of that is happening? Then you’ve still just spent some time out of your head, in your body, and feeling really good. Yay! It sure beats the alternative. So we’ve got that going for us. So part of me doesn’t even care if this “works” or not. Because I feel better. But with this gangster gratitude practice that I’ve done with other things in the last couple of months, something definitely does seem to be working. It seems to be affecting the outer world, to the degree that it has really gotten my attention. Loud and clear. And I’m a math major! I’m really logical. So I would not just say that flippantly, because I know those are very big words. And again, you can always give it a try for two weeks or a month and see. Science experiment.
What if you’re having trouble finding something to be grateful for about the coronavirus (or anything that’s difficult in your life)? Here’s the last resort, and this is really cool. It will resonate with some more than others, though, so don’t force anything; you are always right where you are supposed to be. So when you’re having trouble feeling gratitude for something, you might be grateful for the fact that this is making you really dig deep to find gratitude. This is stretching you; it’s causing you to grow. And if it’s helping you grow, then you can simply be grateful for that. Isn’t that cool?
Another way I like to look at it is that you’re sitting there racking your brain to find something for which you can be grateful about the coronavirus (or anything troubling that you see). Well, look at you! If you’re even attempting that, then you’re very different from the rest of the world of 7.5 billion people. You’re a light worker, leading the way to A New Earth. You’re anchoring something that’s really good and something that’s really needed. YOU CARE! So you can be grateful that coronavirus is reminding you of what a caring person you are. And of how much you are interested in growing (by finding gratitude in something that seems awful).
So there we go folks, shining the powerful light of gratitude on coronavirus of all things. And on anything else as well. It dissolves them faster. And we feel better along the way, a win-win. And when fear arises, or anything else that’s not pleasant, we love. I’m proud to be a broken record about “loving what arises,” probably for the rest of my life. It’s the central tenet of the new paradigm, the new times, the new era, the new way. We alternate between gratitude and self-love as needed, and we heal super fast and our outer world transforms as well. It’s pretty amazing. And it’s truly my honor and joy to share this with you. And more to come as I learn and practice it. Much love to you, hang in there, love yourself through it, do a radical gratitude science experiment for a month or two, and as always, I’m here to help if I can 🙂
So we wrote about handling this unprecedented situation emotionally, moment-to-moment, in our first post. And of course we use our simple method of self-love that opens the heart, spreads loving energy throughout the body, and allows old energies to clear. Then we talked about the big shift of human consciousness that coronavirus is here to initiate. That’s the big picture reason, to the best that I know now, for why the universe has orchestrated this. Because everything is a gift, everything is an ally. At any time in our lives, whether there’s a coronavirus or not, we meet painful experiences with the question, “Universe, what growth is in this for me?” This is called seeing through the universe’s eyes. And it speeds everything up. Which is what we want.
I said that the next post would be about using a very gangster form of gratitude as a super powerful tool to help speed up this shift and return the coronavirus back to the light from which is came. Job complete. I realized that another post has to come before that, though. And it’s one that was already on the list. Because it’s so central to what we do. And that’s focusing on your own transformation, as I said above. I’ve talked about it plenty, but I haven’t phrased it quite like this before. So let’s talk about this some now.
When faced with challenges in life, always focusing on your transformation and growth opportunity is the way to speed things up, to get through the difficult experience and to the other side of it. It’s the way to learn your lessons and grow, and in a way in which life gets more and more exciting rather than scary. We stop asking, “When is the next bad thing going to happen?” Because we know that if it does, it can only be here to make me better! Fact. Isn’t that wild?? This is called trust in the universe. This is called surrender. And that’s what we’re here to learn.
Now, there’s that part of ourselves called the ego that I talk about, and I talk about it like it’s an inner child. Cute and innocent, but not who we want running your life. And that child isn’t exactly interested in growth, because there tends to be growing pains. It likes to be in charge, and it often likes for things to remain the same. But the universe knows about the shiniest YOU waiting up ahead in the future, the most amazing version of yourself that you can be. And what are the best circumstances to get you there the fastest? Your life, your circumstances, exactly as they all are right now. And this is always true. Why? Because the universe is so smart. And yes, this includes the coronavirus.
Where humanity currently is, in terms of the evolution of its consciousness, is a place where growth is often coupled with pain. Said another way, it often takes painful experiences and situations to force us to grow. I believe that we’re evolving out of that, but I wouldn’t say it will happen anytime soon. And if so, great! I’m all for it. This means that often we don’t like what’s happening, and often we don’t understand it. “Did I really have to get a flat tire today?” Apparently so… You get the idea. And when this happens, what do we do? As always, we love first.
There’s a very good reason why I’m always talking about “loving what arises.” When tough things happen that trigger us and we love that part of ourselves like a child in need, it literally heals that part of us. And the old energies of the emotional trigger get cleared out. This is what it feels like when the child inside grows up, into the mature adult of the soul. And the more you do this, the more you have that 20/20 hindsight that knows there’s always a good reason for what is happening. Because it’s just happened so many times – looking back and saying, “Oh yeah, I totally grew from that. It sucked but I’m so much better off now.” So you start to know it in real time rather than in hindsight later, “This is my ally; it’s here to make me better. Thank you.” And after a while of practicing this, surrender becomes more natural and you get triggered less. You simply have too many life experiences, too much data, that shows that everything REALLY IS here to help you. And the triggers become less of a big deal. “Oh, I guess there was more in me ready to be healed and cleared. Yay.”
Now let me be very clear that this coronavirus is a very, very big one! Good lord. So I’m not saying this is easy. But I am saying that if you look at it as an ally – and just give this a shot – and you ask how you can shift for the better, then you will have a better experience than you otherwise would have had. What’s more, it might even speed up how it negatively impacts your life. I’ve seen some really freaky (in a good way) stuff happen when people learn and practice this. It’s like it’s melting obstacles, because we’re getting out in front of our lessons and just going for the growth without being forced so much. Over and over again. I always say that I get to see this not only in my own life of living this way, but also in the lives of all the clients with whom I share and have shared this understanding. It’s truly amazing.
So let’s get right down to it. What shifts can you make? Just ask the question and breathe with it, and see what pops in your head. And if this question triggers you in any way, you love first! All good. Hand on heart and breathe and open. Then ask again, breathe, and listen. Maybe slowing down. Maybe simplifying. Maybe eating a healthier diet. Maybe cooking more. Maybe less alcohol or weed or pills or whatever. Maybe less caffeine. Maybe more exercise. Maybe keeping your house more well-stocked with toilet paper. Anything, big or small.
Maybe more meditation or walks to relax your body and mind. Maybe staying in closer touch with your friends and family. Maybe getting in closer touch with who you are as a soul (see: meditation or walks). Maybe better financial responsibility and more savings. Maybe being more civic-minded. Maybe being a better neighbor. Maybe a shift in your job, like if I use this as an opportunity to do more online group teaching rather than mostly 1:1 sessions in person. It can be anything! Focus on that, and you’ll be getting out in front of this thing. I’m telling you, this is how the universe works. This is why it does the things it does. I’ve just seen it and experienced it too much now. And I don’t always like it! I say that all the time. But I AM hell bent on understanding it. The universe must’ve put me in a package that’s not into pain for a reason, and that’s to figure all of this out and share it with you. We got this, and it’s always my honor and joy to be in a position to help.
So focus on your transformation first, focus on what this is nudging you (or shoving you) to shift. After that, you might focus on those around you. Like if you are a parent or a spouse. Can those relationships improve? Can the family unit improve? We’re talking about becoming healthier people, healthier couples, healthier families, healthier friends, healthier communities, healthier everything – and in every way. If we all do this, and very lovingly and gently (not rushing or beating ourselves up), let’s see what happens with this novel coronavirus. When the mission is accomplished, there’s no more need for the change agent. And why not try this as a science experiment for a month or two? Because even if what I’ve said about the bigger picture turns out to not be true, you’ll be a happier and healthier person than you were before anyway. With better relationships. So your experience will certainly be better than it would otherwise have been had you not shifted. So it’s a win-win! And I love win-wins.
So there we go, folks, we’re focusing on our own transformation – all the time. Again, I was already going to write this, because it’s so central to how we are learning to live. If something painful happens, first love yourself as needed and let the emotion clear to some degree. Then ask how it can make you better and shinier. See through the eyes of the universe; get out in front of it. Why did the universe orchestrate this? To make me better, always. When you don’t like it or don’t understand it, you love. And then you ask again. And we always ask and then listen. Something might float up or it might not. Something might float up three days later, when you’re in the car or in the shower. There’s usually more than one thing, too; that’s just how it works.
As you do this more and more, your life might just become more amazing than you could have ever imagined. This is real, folks, and I’m blessed with having a front row seat in the lives of so many people as they learn and practice this. We do have some healing and clearing to do first, though; there’s just no getting around that. Trust me, I’ve tried. And tried some more. The universe will win. But at some point you’ll begin to shift more into surrender, better at it than you were before, and when you notice this is feels good. “Bring it on, universe, because it will all only make me better. And I’m armed with a very simple yet powerful practice of self-love, so I’m covered.” So amazing.
Note: Matt Kahn’s second book is actually called Everything is Here To Help You. I got to write a preview of it here, before it came out. That was really cool. He even liked what I had written so much that he posted it to his Facebook page. I didn’t know he even knew about my article, and then a guy in India reached out to me. I asked how he found me, and he said on Matt’s Facebook page. What?? Awesome! I can be pretty persuasive if I believe in something, so I thought it was a fantastic post. Because I believe that book is worth the fifteen bucks or whatever a book costs. I mean, come on… So check that out if you want, and it’ll go into lots more detail than I have here. And you’ll get out in front of the universe more and more. And you’ll start to grow with less difficult experiences. Hang in there, and lots more to come. We’re in this together, and we’re going to get through it together. Change is happening, though; we’re being forced into it. But this is our destiny, as we move toward A New Earth. And as always, I’m here to help if I can. I have a very clean office and we can Zoom sessions, too. And so much love to and for you 🙂
Woowoo alert on this one, and on the next several of these corona posts. But what do we have to lose? Always remember that I’m not a nut job, I’m a math major. Well, maybe that makes me a nut job… That’s doesn’t make me right, but I am a reasonably grounded person at least. And with material like this, if one little thing resonates with you then it can be huge; it can change your life. And I’m sure there’s at least something here that can help. And it might be big. Just be relaxed and open, and feel for that one thing. Here we go…
So my understanding is that humanity is in the process of moving out of separation and into oneness. That’s what evolution does. We’re evolving to what many call A New Earth, where it’s a much nicer place. An amazing place! Where people work together. Where they don’t step on each other so much. Where there’s plenty of food and resources to go around. Where people are healthy. Where the natural environment is healthy. There’s clean air, clean water, and abundant wildlife. Where people are joyous. Where there’s very little disease, and definitely very little mental disease. The list goes on.
Now, if you’re thinking that I’m talking about switching to socialism or communism or something like that right away, that’s not it. Those things could never work where we are now, at our current level of consciousness. I don’t know if this will be in tens, hundreds, or thousands of years. I have no idea. But that’s where we’re headed. Because evolution is just a natural thing; it’s a force that cannot be stopped. You can’t stop a tidal wave. And the evolution of consciousness is a tidal wave.
To see this, just go back in time. There used to be overt segregation. Before that, there were hangings in the town square. Before that, there were beheadings in the town square. A woman could be accused by any man of being a witch, for example, and with no trial or chance to prove her innocence, they’d put the vice on her head for all to see – as entertainment – and they’d tighten it until her head exploded everywhere. This used to happen, a lot. And speaking of entertainment, there used to be arenas filled with people watching a lion tear a person to shreds. As entertainment! Can you see that we’re very clearly heading in the right direction?
Now that it’s 2020, most of these things could never happen. They’re simply unthinkable. Why? Because we’ve grown, we’ve evolved. There’s still a ton of injustice and awful things happening, but it’s moved more underground. But that’s just how it works. It moves from being out in the open to going underground. As humanity continues to grow and evolve, injustice will be eradicated more and more. This is the big picture of what’s happening. It’s the evolution of human consciousness.
So how does coronavirus come into play? I believe that it’s a big kick in the collective human ass to get humans even more on track. It’s a quickening. It’s an acceleration of the awakening process. We’re being called to simplify. We’re being called to slow down. And this will naturally lead to people connecting with themselves more – their true selves. Connecting with their heart, with their soul. Right now we’re all running around without stopping. And there’s a light that’s inside of us that’s begging for us to stop and get to know it. Like it or not, and please know that I’m not a fan of people struggling like they are right now, but coronavirus is a big jolt that’s going to shift us in this direction of a higher consciousness. This is a very zoomed out view of what’s happening.
Regarding this light inside of us, always remember that I’m a virgo with two math degrees. I’m super woowoo and open-minded because I’m SO logical. I’m ridiculously logical. Some of my friends called me “Slide Rule” in high school. I’m very curious and open, though, so I’ve studied the near death experiences (NDEs) and out of body experiences (OBEs) a ton. And with no prior beliefs or opinion on the matter, just curiosity. And let me say that there’s a freaking mountain of evidence that what we truly are is pure, eternal light. And this universal light or consciousness is animating all the different bodies you see, like earth is one big Halloween costume party. But what we truly are is the aliveness of these bodies, not the bodies, not the characters. And that aliveness is ready for us to get to know it. The Self that we are can’t be silenced any longer, because it’s time for us to get to know our true Self to continue our journey to A New Earth. And it’s not an option. Remember, it’s a tidal wave.
As for resources for expanding how you see things, there’s a ton out there. I love books like Dying to be Me, Proof of Heaven, Many Lives Many Masters, and Soul Survivor. Check out the works of Dr. Raymond Moody, Dr. Ian Stevenson, and Robert Monroe. Read this stuff like it’s fiction, very relaxed, and just see what lands. And remember that if something feels true by at least 51-49, go with it. And make the old belief get back to 51%. Don’t wait. This will greatly speed up your journey. Don’t have any loyalty to your beliefs, because that’s how people hold on to stuff that’s just not even close to being true.
Note: What happened in Many Lives Many Masters has actually happened in my office. It was incredible. I was totally high-fiving the air. And one of the past life traumas my client was experiencing (and thus clearing) was the “witch” with the vice on her from above. It was nuts! Read about it here. And read about more of hers here. I think she experienced four or five of them in total. So cool.
The more you study this stuff, the more you see that spiritual awakening is real. You see that what you are now – YOU, NOW?!? – is literally an infinite being made of pure, infinite love. It’s so crazy to comprehend (which is why I stopped trying!). Since I talk about this stuff a lot, people tell me their stories that they don’t tell many people. I guarantee that you, whoever you are that’s reading this now, has either had an NDE or OBE or you know someone that has. Your NDE/OBE Kevin Bacon number is 1. Guaranteed. It’s just incredible. This. Is. Real.
So we’re in a world that has no idea about this fact of what we all really are. Many people do, but humanity overall does not. And this fact has said times up, it’s time to grow. It’s time to know what we really are. And the world will change as a result. Can you think of things you did when you were younger that you couldn’t imagine doing now? Something you weren’t proud of. You mistreated someone, perhaps, in a way that you could not do now. Why? Because you’ve changed, you’ve grown. It’s a different you. And one that’s an “up-leveled” version. It might even be something you did as a child. Something very selfish or foolish. And now you’re no longer a child, so you simply could not do that same thing now. It’s not possible.
We’re growing up spiritually, from spiritual child to spiritual adult. From spiritually immature to spiritually more mature. That child is the “ego,” which is that baby inside of you, that inner child that I talk about all the time. And the adult is the soul. Every adult was once a child, and all children experience growing pains. It’s part of life. And humanity is experiencing a massive growing pain now. This is just what’s happening. And coronavirus is the catalyst.
Please note that I’m not a fan of something this extreme. I think it’s a bit brutal. A bit? Understatement! Apparently the universe did not consult me on this, though. I’ve said this a lot – I’m not suicidal, but I can’t wait to be on the other side, when this body is done, to ask the universe, “Why do we do this earth thing?? Does it really have to be THAT harsh and painful and brutal?” Seriously, I’m very curious about that. And a huge party of my growth until maybe a year ago was healing the part of me that got so pissed off about it all the time. Because then I’m super angry and I’m still here. And I’m still seeing and experiencing lots of pain. I’ve come a long, long way in this regard, and I’m very happy and proud of that! And of course I used the self-love method that I’ve talked about for a while now to heal it.
Anyway, I just wanted you to know where I’m coming from. I’m happy for the big picture shift that’s happening now, but I absolutely feel for the world right now at the same time. And when I have my moments, I love that part of me that needs it. And then I keep on living, as simply as possible. As a musician, espresso connoisseur, and mostly non-cook, I have SO many friends that are in the service industry or the music industry. So this is tough for me in many ways. And lots of my clients have had to cancel because they’ve lost their jobs and can’t afford it. This might even be the catalyst for a shift in how I do things, in fact. Online classes that are more affordable, in addition to individual sessions. The funny thing is, though, that this is what I’ve wanted to do for about two years now, and it just hasn’t happened. The universe is in charge of the timing. So we’ll see how that unfolds.
This has been enough for now, I think, and I hope you got something out of it. I have lots more to share coming up, but we needed the big picture first. Just read, breathe, and be open. Let you body tell you what lands. Just be open and curious, with no pressure to know anything. It just works better that way, and you learn and grow faster. But this zoomed out understanding sets the stage for what’s coming next, which is a very radical form of gratitude. Yes, gratitude. For the coronavirus. Really? Really. It sends light to the coronavirus, which is what we want, and that speeds up this shift or growth process. Fear slows it down. So that’s coming soon, maybe tomorrow.
In the meantime, hang in there and simplify. Try to find ways to relax. My friend is a yoga teacher and she recommends lying down close to a wall and putting your legs up the wall for several minutes. And just breathe and relax and zone out. This relaxes your body and nervous system a lot. Blood flows the other way, which is healthy. It’s like an internal bath. There are plenty of things like that you can do. And of course love yourself through this as needed. And I look forward to connecting for more! I’m always here, and we ARE going to get through this. Done deal, I promise. And… I love you 🙂
We’re experiencing some very crazy times right now with this coronavirus. Understatement, I know. I’m going to write a series of posts about what I know, and I hope they’ll contain some things that can help you right away. Even if they help a little, or if there is one nugget that resonates with you, it’s well worth the read. The first one today will be about what we always do first, and that’s loving the part of ourselves that needs it in any moment. Like when we’re upset in any way, any way at all, big or small. This lets those energies flow. The second will be about using gratitude – gratitude?? – yes, gratitude – to help speed up what we’re going through and to also positively affect your immediate circumstances. And the third will be what I know about the bigger picture of why this is happening, what the reason is. Because there’s always a reason. We’re trying to see things through the eyes of the universe, which we’ve talked about before. And note that we don’t have to like or understand the reason. And when we don’t, we love that part of ourselves on the spot. That always comes first. In exactly the manner described below. Here we go…
Remember that the foundation of this work that I’ve been sharing the last several years can be called “loving what arises.” And it’s really more like loving WHO arises. As in, what part of you needs love in any moment. When you’re scared, angry, sad, anxious, stressed, feeling insecure, unsure, inadequate, or whatever – it’s always only a part of you that feels that way. And trust me, I know that that part can feel like the whole thing! I get that for sure. I experience that as well. But it’s actually always only a part of you. And the essence of loving what arises is saying “I see you” to that part, the second it shows up. “I see you and I am with you. How you feel is valid.” It feels amazing after a while.
I’ve talked before about The Baby Analogy, where you view the part of you that’s triggered as a younger version of yourself. It could be a baby, your first grade yearbook picture, whatever. Cute and innocent. You only want to give him or her the biggest bear hug ever. If that works for you, then great. And if not, all good – it can just be a part of you without the “younger you” connection. The point is that a part of you is showing up saying it needs YOU. So what can you do?
One way is to close your eyes and put your hands on your heart and breathe. Then let the breath be a breath of love for that part of you – the scared one inside, the mad one, the sad one, the anxious one, etc. You’re saying, “I see you.” You’re saying, “How you feel is valid.” And it’s so healing. Remember that we don’t choose our feelings. Rather, they just show up and say, “I’m here, what are you going to do with me? Are you going to judge me or ignore me? Or are you going to love and accept me.” That part of you is asking to be seen, and it’s asking for respect.
Note that you don’t have to like it to love it – that’s huge. You don’t like your own child when he or she throws a tantrum in the grocery store, but the love remains exactly the same. As you’re rushing the child out of the store and away from the public! Loving it just means seeing it; acknowledging it is there and it is valid. I don’t love fear or anger or sadness, but I absolutely love little Ashley with a bowl haircut that feels that way! All day long.
Each time we do this, our heart gets healed a little – or a lot. And the triggered energies that have arisen are getting cleared each time as well. That’s why I like using the breath. And letting it be a breath of love that blasts your heart makes the breath so much more powerful. It’s so direct. It feels so powerful after a while, like a fire extinguisher. Like it’s filling a gas tank that was empty. Like it’s healing a wound. So huge.
Note that you don’t have to stop and close your eyes each time. You can do this anytime, anyplace. You can be at work and something happens that triggers you. In this case, maybe you have a cancellation or your boss cuts your hours or lets you go. You feel those triggered energies arise in your body. And right away, you catch them with that breath and you’re a big open space – open is key – for that to arise and to be. Your awareness says, “I see you and I’m here with you,” without even a word in your head. You can do this while face-to-face with your boss or a client or a friend or family member. And those energies are allowed to move and eventually be dispersed. If you’re feeling them, they’re saying goodbye on the way out. Otherwise they get stuffed down, they build up, and then they explode later – often on somebody who is innocent. Sound familiar? We’ve all done this before. Let’s take this opportunity to master it as best we can. We got this.
When you are alone later, and this could even be in your car (while it is parked), you might want to close your eyes and put hands on heart and really blast that part of you with love. And let the emotion flow. And it will. Remember that it’s being cleared out of you. It’s a good thing. You might even start and end your day doing this, even for just a few seconds. Times like these might call for such measures. And you know what? You’re learning to love yourself more and more. If you’re doing that, often things in the world end up working out for the better. I’m telling you, folks, I see it not only in my life but in the lives of all the clients with whom I share this. It’s really freaky sometimes. It’s amazing.
So that’s the first step that I practice myself and teach others, anytime we’re triggered. Whether we’re alone or not. Loving what – or who – arises. In times like these, of course we feel a wide range of emotion; that’s why this is so important to understand and practice. When we love what arises in this manner, we validate all of it and let the triggered energies flow. Then they don’t build up and explode, so our relationships are better. And often the outer world shifts as well. Hang in there with this thing, and there will be more to come in the coming days. We got this. Things will be changing, though, but for the better in the long run. I believe it’s all destiny. And we got this. We have no choice anyway. So hang in there and love that heart as needed, as your first and most immediate step. Talk soon.