Father Visits In A Dream & Gives The Answer!

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Today I’d like to tell a tale that you just might not believe. I might not had I not heard it myself, straight from the source. And I knew the source personally as a very honest person, the last kind of person that would make up a random story out of thin air, look me in the eye, and tell me. This kind of far out stuff is happening more and more often these days with signs only of accelerating, as we finally start to learn what reality truly is. We’re living in a very woo woo universe, folks, just saying… This will become more and more evident year after year. I might write a book about it, too. Some book ideas have been floating around for me in the last year, and you know what I’ve learned? That books don’t write themselves… All good, though, because as I look back, I haven’t been ready. But I’m getting close! And it’ll be very fun.

So this really nice, awesome woman was ready to deal with her alcohol issue, so she went to a rehab. She chose Gulf Breeze Recovery, an innovative place where I used to work a bunch and still give a monthly talk. She learned a lot there about exactly what we talk about here at A Clean Mind, and we were chatting as she was getting close to returning home. And she told me about a dream she had just had. It was actually what I would call a “visitation,” in which her deceased father visited her. People that experience these visitations always say how ridiculously realistic they are, totally unlike a normal dream. A very different quality. And they tend to remember them crystal clear, too, for years and years. Again, totally unlike a normal dream.

NOTE: If this sounds impossible to you, just read on and decide for yourself. But I’m telling you, this stuff is coming out more and more. So it might be good to stay open and admit that you have absolutely no idea what is possible and what is not. Because let’s face it… you don’t! And I sure don’t, either. And life is WAY better when we start to ditch thinking that we know everything. And yes, even stuff like this! I’m telling you… Because when you get out of the way and take a close, honest look, you’ll see that you don’t truly know. Not believe, but know. And the more you get used to that, you’ll find that it becomes a MUCH more comfortable place to live. Back to the story…

So her father had passed away some years before, and a trust had been set up for his children, including her. In the dream, he said something like, “Look at chapter two, paragraph five.” I don’t remember the rest of it, but that was the important part. He didn’t say where to look, though. She awoke right after and wrote down what he had said, knowing it was important. But what to do with this information, she wondered? She had read lots of books while at GBR, and they were scattered around her room, so the first thing she did was to look in each one. She didn’t notice anything significant in this place he had mentioned, though. With no other ideas, she let it go for the time being and peacefully went back to bed.

When she awoke the next morning, she had the idea that maybe he was referring to his will. So she called her daughter, told her where the will was located, and asked her to see if there was a chapter two, paragraph five. And you know what? There was. And you know what it said? Get ready, because this is the cool part. It explained that there was a separate account that was totally off limits, except under certain very specific circumstances. The woman had actually known about this account, but she had never known exactly what it was for; she only knew that it was untouchable. Until now, that is. Because you know what? One of the things it could be used for was rehab! So her dad just saved her over $30,000. In a freaking dream. Bam! I love this stuff…

The first thing I’d like to point out is that as I said earlier, this woman is the opposite of someone that would just make something like this up. She reminds me of my mom, in fact, and my mom would never just make up a ridiculous story of a dream and then go and tell someone, especially someone that had helped her a lot with her life and finding peace. Remember when I wrote about my friend’s premonition dream, another type of interesting “dream,” in which he saw the shark? And I said this is not the type of person that lies! Or even exaggerates that much. As humans go, we’re talking about an extremely real, honest dude. Like, 99 percentile. Well, this woman is the same way. So maybe she just made up this ridiculous story and told me, but I seriously, seriously doubt it. Not many people would do that. Not to one of their helpers, especially. And she certainly wouldn’t.

Another thing I’d like to mention is the quality with which she had the thought to check his will. This thought just “popped in her head.” And that’s really how our wisdom/insight works. New, fresh thought is always available to us if we only relax and listen. And this is in stark contrast to the old conditioned thinking that we’ve listened to for so long. She also knew how timing works, so she didn’t get frustrated when she didn’t find anything in the books. This is because she was starting to learn how things truly work. So she relaxed and went back to bed, and what happened? The answer just popped in her head the next morning. This is not unlike my recent client and the stray dog. It’s the relaxed quality that we’re after. So we feel better AND things work out better. A win-win.

So there we go, folks. I’ve been wanting to tell this story for a while now, and it just popped in my head. And I sure hope I haven’t told it here already, because that would be embarrassing. They say that memory is the first to go… Let’s stay open, because we truly have no freaking idea how things really work and what is possible. And for the Christians out there, if you take away the supernatural stuff from the Bible, you’d have a much smaller book. And have the laws of the universe changed? Nope! And that’s good news. We’re starting to learn the rules of the game more and more, and the possibilities really do seem endless the more we look around. And we’ll be talking about that more and more here. Or in that book. That doesn’t write itself. Peace out 🙂

The Election Is Over

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Here’s something for those that are freaking out… This was quite the interesting election, in which more people than ever felt like none of us would come out winners. More people than ever despised both candidates. Of course, many fully supported Trump and many fully supported Clinton. But I’ve never seen it where so many others thought each was a total disaster. And the anti-Trump sentiments are more than I’ve ever seen against one candidate. So I’m writing this mainly for the people that are totally freaking out right now and think the world is coming to an end. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t; I don’t know. But I’m going to see as clearly as possible, not obscured by feelings, and have the best day I can. Even if it sucks. Honestly I’m not one of the ones freaking out, but that doesn’t mean I’m better than anyone. I’ll freak out at things others might not. We all have our flavors. I know many that are freaking out, and I can absolutely see why. No judgment at all here. We have a very unconventional president now, so freaking out on the part of many citizens would be normal. And this is for them.

I’m not too political myself, and I wasn’t thrilled with either candidate. I’d love to see a female US president, but the Clintons seems to be pretty corrupt sellouts, like most in Washington. And Trump seems like a low-character buffoon. I have no idea if he has any actual policies, and maybe he does. Or maybe he’ll “surround himself with smart people” like they always said about George W. when people questioned his intelligence. I don’t know. But in the end, it seems that a total disgust for fakeness and a broken system in Washington won out over all the despicable character issues and question marks surrounding Trump. And I can see that! I mean, the guy is a wild card, to say the least. But people have been fed up for a while. I knew they were fed up, but not this much. He insulted every possible group and still won. That’s a lot of disgust for Washington politics right there. Unless it was rigged for Trump, the people spoke. And some say it’s about the changing demographics in the US, and many white people are freaked out. So they showed up at the polls in record numbers and that’s what did it. Who knows?

So here’s the main thing if you’re freaking out right now – the mind keeps trying to make sense of it or “fix” it. But that’s not possible. And it’ll just make you feel terrible. Earlier today, I got a call from a beautiful and wise friend that’s found herself super triggered by this, and that’s exactly what I told her. All the thinking in the world will only make you feel worse. So for now, just say “Wow,” or in her words, “Holy sh*t.” And then let that be all the thinking you do. And take a huge breath and let the body relax as much as it can. Get out of thought altogether, even if for only a few seconds. When you do this, the days will pass, feelings will clear out, and clarity will arise on its own. And you’ll feel better faster. So that’s HUGE, the chatterbox trying to constantly fix it. But it will only make you feel worse. Your wisdom is there the whole time, so give it some space in which to operate. And it will. And you’ll feel better. Re-read chapter 11 of The Untethered Soul if you need to for a refresher on straight-up feeling, as nameless energy moving through your system. And it’ll move much faster, letting you feel better, and clarity about the situation will arise on its own. A win-win.

Then we have acceptance. Palpable acceptance. This has happened, period. It has happened. Tell yourself this as you breathe deeply into the body, without the what-ifs and analysis and chatter. Again, that’s the overactive mind freaking out. It comes from a good place, because you have legitimate concerns. But it won’t help. As the feelings flow, you’ll see it more clearly. Analyze it next week, but not now. I actually wrote a post in 2012 called This Has Happened, so read it in case there’s any nugget that might help. It describes what is meant by palpable acceptance. It’s palpable because you go to the body and feel what comes up as you let it sink in that “this has happened.” So you’re letting the feelings move and eventually leave your system. And you’ll feel lighter and better much faster. The feelings won’t get stuck. And remember that acceptance ultimately comes down to the fact that it’s a done deal, and there ain’t no time machine. Not yet, anyway… I love quoting Byron Katie, who said, “When you argue with reality, you lose. But only 100% of the time.” Because… This. Has. Happened.

You can have all the reasons why this is a disaster, and all your friends might agree with you, and many other smart people might agree with you, but it’s not going to change anything. That’s why I’m writing this, to get you to feeling better faster. This isn’t about changing your beliefs at all; it’s only about you feeling better. Also if your body is telling you that this is a really, really big deal to you, give yourself permission just to feel off for a while, not resisting the feeling. Even that alone can give those feelings space to move. A friend of mine actually apologized to me today for being in a sour mood, and I said all good! But she’s a wise one herself, and she said she’s being real and giving herself this day to feel that way. And she knows she’ll be fine. Awesome! This is the fast way to peace and acceptance.

My thought this morning when I saw the results was hey, if he’s the president then let’s see some change in Washington. Let’s see term limits, changes to big money buying politicians, overall limits to campaigning, etc. And again, if your mind comes in with a million reasons about the environment, his temperament, lack of inclusion, etc., then you need to go back to acceptance. Because you can’t do anything about that right now. Stay in your wisdom, which says that yes those are concerns. But it’s done for now. “This has happened.” So hopefully some changes can be made to the system, because we can all agree that it’s deeply flawed. And if he’s a disaster, then he most likely won’t be reelected in four years anyway. And despite what it may seem, four years is not forever.

So I wish you all the best, and if this helps at all then send it to someone that needs it. Let feelings flow and stay out of the head, judging it. Because it only leads to pain and doesn’t fix anything. You’ll start to feel lighter after a while, naturally, and you’ll be able to see it more clearly. I wish you luck, and we’ll see what goes down. I’m sure it won’t be dull! Hopefully he doesn’t get us blown up. Hopefully he shakes up Washington. Hopefully he respects women. Hopefully he trims the ridiculous amount of governmental fat. And if he doesn’t, he’ll be out. And hopefully we see more of Alec Baldwin on Saturday Night Live.

Also know that the young folks today are a WAY different breed than any of us before. And they’re the ones voting more and more with each election. The world is changing, and it’s speeding up all the time. And we have no idea what it’ll look like in the future. So let’s stay together and see how this goes down. And as my wise friend told me today, she still knows, despite all the feelings swirling in her body now, that the best way to effect change in the world is to look inside yourself. If we all do that more and more, clearing out our old BS, then it’ll naturally be expressed in the outer world. We got this.

And finally, zooming out all the way, let’s not forget about the vast amount of near death and other research indicating that we are absolutely not these bodies, earth is not our home, its all good no matter what, and true self that we are is actually fine always, totally safe. Read or listen to Dying To Be Me if you need to. This is BIG! There’s a ton of evidence out there supporting this, and it’ll be common knowledge in the future. When in doubt, zoom out. At the end of the day, it’s all good. And it’s okay to not understand why things happen the way they do. There must be a really good reason. That’s what I tell myself, anyway, and that’s what I truly believe. But I make myself stop and feel it when I’m feeling triggered by external stuff like this. Okay, there we go, just some thoughts, I love you, and let’s not judge it too quickly. We got this! And maybe some good will come out of this in the end.

The Stray Dog

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I wrote a piece called Puzzle Pieces a few days ago, and it’s about how we are learning how to get out of the way, stay centered and relaxed in our body, and let things flow. Let a smarter intelligence take over. We end up feeling better AND things work out better. So cool… Well, it didn’t take long for yet another simple example of this to show up. In fact, I was with a relatively new client shortly after doing the writing, and she’s really been getting it. And she told the tale of finding a stray dog, and her experience was totally different than it would’ve been not even two months earlier, before we met and embarked on this journey of discovery about how things really work.

So she saw this dog wandering around, and she just couldn’t pass it by. She really loves animals, you see. It was late in the afternoon, and she wasn’t sure what to do. So she thought about it and decided to take it to a vet to see if it had one of those microchips in it. Now I love dogs, but I’ve never had one as an adult – wait, I’m an adult?? – because I’m on the go too much. I can’t be tied down by no animal!! So I’m out of the loop. But apparently they now have these chips embedded into their bodies that can be scanned to find out who the owner is. Seriously? Pretty wild. Back to the story…

So she took it to the vet and they scanned it and it did have a chip. But there was an issue, like it wasn’t registered or something like that. So they didn’t know who the owner was. There wasn’t a full resolution at this point, but at least the dog was in a good place. So my client went home, had a nice evening with her husband, and got a good night’s sleep. She got up the next morning and had a nice morning, not even thinking about the dog. In fact, she didn’t even remember it. Then the thought gently popped in her head late that morning, so she called the vet to check in. By that time, they had found the owner and arrangements had been made to not only pick the dog up but also to get some “routine maintenance” done like clipping the nails and that kind of thing.

This sounds pretty ho-hum, right? Well, it’s not. In fact, it’s absolutely amazing and life changing! Because not even two months ago, the story would not have gone like this. And this is an example of just one very simple thing, but they build and build, and we feel more and more stressed out. When we don’t understand the rules of the game, that is. My client said, “I usually don’t let go of things. I stew on them and I freak out, and I feel terrible the whole time.” She used to have anxiety, you see, several weeks ago. She never did have an anxiety disorder, though (which most health care professional don’t know yet, unfortunately – I along with many others are working on changing that). She only had a lack of education that freaking out is optional. Freaking out is one radio station, and the other is our built-in wisdom or common sense. So she used that station instead, only because she now knew that it’s an option. Not even two months ago. Wow!

She’s also learned that our bodies constantly “feel our thinking,” so as she relaxed her body and thought calmly about the situation, feeling out what to do, she naturally felt better. It’s the law. So she did what she could, taking it to the vet, and then she let go of it. She detached. And she forgot about it! She also said, “My husband got home from work and he never even knew what had happened.” And why is this important? Because for decades, she would’ve started venting and freaking out to him about it the second he walked in the door. Does that sound like a fun relationship? Umm, no, that sounds absolutely miserable. And I know that tons of people live like this! But that’s because they haven’t been taught how things work. So my client was able to have a nice evening with her husband, a peaceful night’s sleep, and a pleasant morning. And none of those things would have happened just a short time ago. And this kind of everyday stuff, over and over, day after day, year after year, decade after decade, makes us feel terrible! Can you spell anxiety and depression? So maybe you’re starting to see why I think a tale like this is SO major, even just this one situation with a “random” stray dog. When my clients tell me about these shifts, often thinking they’re no big deal, I get up and high five them. I get super pumped. And sometimes I even tear up. Because this is big! This is literally another way to live, a better way to live. And it just takes gentle practice.

Now here’s where it gets cool and relates to the Puzzle Pieces. She stayed relaxed and centered in her body the whole time, meaning that she relaxed her body and opened it anytime it felt contracted and closed, stressed and anxious. And she used her wisdom, taking the dog to the vet. Then when she left, she let it go. And she forgot about it altogether, which she never would’ve done before, until the next morning when it just popped in her head (your wisdom knows exactly when to pop things in your head, but there needs to be some space). So she called the vet and it was all taken care of. And not only was the dog going to be reunited with its owner, but it was going to get the care it needed as well. All this stuff just happened, working out perfectly, while my client was enjoying her life and not even thinking about it. Things seem to work out better the more we relax and let it unfold. And now my client has another experience of living differently, another experience of getting results, another experience of a win-win (because she felt better and it worked out beautifully). And this builds confidence and solidifies the new habits we’re creating to replace the old habits of freaking out and then feeling bad. Isn’t this super cool, people? I sure think so. And you know who else does? My client. She said she might be truly happy now. And her husband is happy as well. Because he’s getting a much better version of his partner now, and their lives will not be the same. Much more relaxed and enjoyable. And yours will be, too! And mine, too. When we simply learn the rules of the game and gently practice. So happy learning and practicing, and as always, let me know if I can help 🙂

Puzzle Pieces

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The stuff that I’ve been writing about here for almost five years now – wait, five years?! – is really the story of how I’ve been learning – and living – how to get out of the way. Get out of the way and let something smarter lead. There’s literally a Flow that we are all in, all the time; it’s just whether or not we are aware of it (and note that this woowoo-sounding stuff actually sounds not unlike quantum physics, which we do NOT yet understand after almost 100 years!). I’ve been telling clients for a while now that what we talk about in my office is quite literally the art and science of getting out of the way. And we always go to relaxing the body first, because the body is the barometer that lets us know when we are getting in the way, when we are not in the flow. So we relax, slow down, and let things unfold. And life ends up being WAY better.

Which brings us to the idea of puzzle pieces. And it’s been totally blowing me away the last several months or so, to pretty comical levels. Comical. What’s been happening the more I’ve gotten out of the way is that life has gotten so much more smooth, and things often happen without my doing anything. And seemingly separate things fit together like puzzle pieces, in ridiculous perfection. It could be big things or small, but it doesn’t matter. Because each time I notice this happening, I understand more deeply that we are truly living in an intelligent, connected universe. That it’s real. That what Michael Singer describes in The Surrender Experiment is REAL. It is real. It’s real, for you and me, right here and right now, without having to lift a finger. It is the law! But nobody tells us this, so we grow up believing otherwise. And our beliefs are very, very powerful, so it seems like this is not the case. But I’m here to say, it is true. We are living in an intelligent, connected universe. It is a fact, it is the law. And it is good.

It might be that a client has to reschedule because a conflict arose at work, or they are sick. And then an hour later, another client needs to move their session to that exact time. Or a different client needs an emergency session, and that time is now open. And I always say in those cases, “The universe has your back, because that time opened up just an hour ago.” And since I’m finally starting to figure out how things really work (hey, I’ve been on the slow train), I’m more and more in awe every time. And it’s finally sinking in more deeply that this is actually normal, this is actually reality. This can be life, 24/7/365. Wow…

One thing to mention is that we are not in charge of timing. The universe knows the timing, so our opportunity is to get out of the way and just relax as best we can and feel things out, let things unfold. And it becomes more natural with practice, I’m telling you! So regarding timing, let’s just say that it usually takes longer than our ego wants for things to work out. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t take very long at all. Because things work out so much better! So we always relax into things and feel them out as best we can. We slow down and let things unfold. And when we feel to act, we act. So this does not mean we are lazy, not at all; people often misinterpret this, in fact. This is not lazy, but rather smarter and more informed as to how the universe really works. Because we’re finally starting to learn and then trust that we are truly living in an intelligent, connected universe. Again, wow. But believing it to some level and living it are two different things. Living it can take some practice, because our old beliefs run deep. And this blog is all about learning to live it.

Another thing to point out is that it can take some time for things to shift and open up like this. I’ve been at it for a while now. But hey, I’m a math major Virgo! So I was born a thinker, way in my head my whole life, and I finally started to move away from this only about three and a half years ago. They call this the journey from the head to the heart, and some say it’s the longest journey one can take. But things are changing, they really are, and that’s exactly why I’m writing this. And of course this is only my experience, but I know there are many others that can relate.

So keep at it, people! This stuff works, period. The law is the law, period. Facts are facts, period. And the fact is, we are living in an intelligent, connected universe. Right here, right now. You were actually born worthy of receiving its gifts, whether it seems that way or not. Again, facts are facts. But like I said earlier, nobody tells us this stuff. So we grow up believing otherwise, and our beliefs run the show. They are so powerful. We’re starting to figure things out, though, and when we keep relaxing and letting things unfold, we start to see how synchronistic events fit together like puzzle pieces, often without us having to do anything. It is the law! And understanding this and then learning to live in this understanding makes life so much smoother. And the more it happens, the more we trust. And the more we trust, the more we rest. Like puzzle pieces.