Client Feedback: Amazing Matt Kahn Video

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Hello, lovelies. In late October, I wrote about a teacher I recently discovered named Matt Kahn and one particular video of his. The post is called Matt Kahn & the Fast Path to Awesomeness. The video is called Raising Your Vibration, and it’s so fundamental to inner peace that I’d like to talk about it again here. It really is that important. As I said in the original post, the video is about… get ready… being nice to ourselves! Hahaha, hilarious. That sure doesn’t sound like the topic of a video by that name, does it? He talks about how we might go to the ends of the earth in the name of growth, but most of us haven’t considered simply being nice to ourselves and talking nicely to ourselves. Which is actually more powerful, anyway. So cool…

Also, note that this post appears in the December newsletter for Breathe Yoga & Wellness. Well, there’s a reason for that. Yoga is awesome and incredible and amazing and the list goes on and on. Many people, however, have lots of negative self-talk around their yoga practice. I know because I used to be one of them! How many times have you heard the word “should” in some form or fashion? And this extends to all of the healthy things we think we should be doing. “I should go more often.” “I should take my practice more seriously.” “I should be able to do the poses as well as those people.” “I should be better than I am since I’ve been doing it so long.” What if all of that chatter were gone and replaced by something like, “I really love myself and give myself credit right now for showing up here and trying to do something healthy.” And then pausing for a moment to breathe in and feel that awesome feeling. You’ll feel so much better, especially after some practice, and your yoga practice will be better as well. You see, thinking is 24/7, so let’s get that down first. Our personal thinking is the water in which we swim, pretty much all the time. So it’s kind of important. Let’s get that down and then see if the rising tide really does lift all ships.

Let’s close today by sharing how this video has affected others in very short time. Several friends and clients have already told me how much it has changed their world. It’s really cool for me, because it feels so good to help others. And in this case, I don’t even have to do anything! I’m just sharing stuff that has helped me, which is all this work that I do is about anyway. So today I’d like to share an email that I got from a client I haven’t even seen in close to three years. Her words speak for themselves. Enjoy!

Hey Friend…been a little tough in my life lately, but I’m hanging 🙂 But i wanted to share that I had gone to your blog recently and was reading a few posts to see if you had anything on anger…lol…but as I was reading, I stumbled across one of your posts that mentioned Matt Kahn…and you know me, I was curious so I immediately pulled up that video and started watching…Well, I was amazed…I can’t tell you now how many of his videos I’ve watched (and still watching), but with every one seems to come a clearer understanding of the universe than from all the books, courses, etc. out there that I’ve seen. I try not to get too excited, but I just keep going back…and back… If you ever decide to go see him, let me know and you can pack me in your suitcase. I think I thought (how’s that for good grammar) I loved myself, but now I realize I hadn’t even scratched the surface, and if I’m lucky enough one day to be able to, I think my eyes will be open as never before, and he’s taught me so much, especially to keep reminding myself that when people are angry, mean, bossy or whatever towards me, it’s not about me attracting that…its more about them being on their own journey. I could go on forever as you know, but just wanted to thank you for having that in your blog for me to find…lol.

Love you…

Jealous Bitch, Anyone?

Posted Posted in Client/Friend Stories

So my friend texted me recently, and it went like this:

Her: Can u hypnotize me to not be a jealous bitch

Me (after I stopped laughing): Nope, I’m still working on that! Haha. We can talk about it tho. Honestly breathing is the main thing. To chill the body THEN think about the REALITY of the situation (not your imagination). And then speak or act. But don’t speak or act when the mind and body are freaking out. You know how that turns out…

First of all, note that I’m working on many of the same things I write about and that I help people with. Some people think I’ve “transcended” or something. Ha, nope! I’m working on that and sharing it in real time. And that’s pretty cool. Because we’re living anyway, so we might as well go for more and more peace – and in the exact same situations that brought so much contraction before. Because peace is something that we can learn. And it’s ultimately an inside job. Yep, it’s true. And then we gently and lovingly practice. Okay, here we go…

So what does my friend mean by “jealous bitch?” She means that she gets fearful and upset from time to time regarding her boyfriend and then she doesn’t like how this feels. And I’m guessing that she says and does things that she later regrets. And I’m guessing that after all is said and done, she sees that she made the whole thing up and then she feels like a fool for “acting crazy,” or even for feeling that way in the first place. Sound familiar to anyone? At least a little bit?

Now let’s slow it all down. Slow motion is pretty awesome… So there’s a time when she does not feel like a “jealous bitch.” All is good with the world, and she feels fine. And then something happens. It could be a call or a text. It could be something she hears from someone else. It could be the lack of a call or a text. “I haven’t heard from him and he said he would call.” It could be a thought like that one or another. “Why didn’t he invite me to hang out with his friends tonight?” And then her mind is off to the races. It could be anything, and it happens fast. And then bam! She is triggered. That means something happened, and she feels a strong feeling as a result.

What most people do at this point is totally identify with the feeling. I AM angry. I AM sad. I AM pained. I AM frustrated. And then the feeling, which is really strong, does the thinking, talking, texting, punching, throwing of things, etc. But we know better here at A Clean Mind. We’re learning and practicing a different way, a way that feels so much better. And it gets to the root of the problem. I am responsible for this feeling in my body. I created it; it’s an inside job. And it’s temporary – that is a fact. Even when it’s SO STRONG and lasts SO LONG. Because there has never been a permanent feeling in the history of humanity. Fact.

So it’s more accurate to say “I’m feeling temporary anger/sadness/pain/frustration in my body.” I know it might sound clunky, but can you feel the difference? We witness these feelings, not as the feelings but as the one watching. I know it sounds subtle, and I know that I’m not totally there in terms of explaining it, but this way of seeing things has some space in between me and the feeling. I don’t have to be the feeling (that’s not possible, anyway). Instead, I can be the one noticing it. In other words, I can still be the real me. And the real me can make the decisions. And the first decision is to think with my wisdom/common sense instead of with the chatterbox. To think with my built-in source of high quality thinking. The other option, again, is the chatterbox, which is our source of low-quality thinking. There are only two radio stations on the dial, and your body will let you know which one you’re listening to. Because one feels much better than the other. And at the very least, it feels way less bad. And hey, that’s still a major upgrade!

The chatterbox talks a mile a minute, loud and fast, and often angry. It is critical. It is not very helpful. It is not very loving. It is not very supportive. It jumps to conclusions. It goes on tangent upon tangent. It creates all kinds of scenarios, which may or may not be true. And which usually aren’t true at all…

Our good voice, on the other hand, sticks to the facts. It usually doesn’t have to say a whole lot. And it talks much more slowly. It says, “Okay, maybe this is true. Maybe he’s cheating on me right now. [Breathing deeply]. Does that feel true, though? Is that likely? Is that what I really think is happening? [Breathing deeply]. If so, what will I do? [Breathing deeply]. Let me think about this for a minute… Let me see… Hmm… Well, I don’t think it’s likely, because I’ve felt this way so many times before and it never was true then. It was my thinking, my imagination. [Breathing deeply]. If it is true, though, then I’ll certainly have to deal with that. But it’s more likely that it’s not. [Breathing deeply]. So I’m going to relax as best I can for now and let my body calm down. And then I’ll decide what do.”

Do you notice a difference? Huge difference! And it just takes practice. And you still might feel the feeling, but it won’t have the power to turn you into a “jealous bitch.” Feeling jealous is fine. I know it’s not fun, but if that’s how you feel, that’s how you feel. The question is, what do you do the moment you notice it? That’s the moment of truth. That’s what I’m getting at by going in slow motion above. Things are fine, then something happens and you’re triggered and you feel jealous. Your body gives you the information, and then what do you do with that information? And this extends to any feeling, any time. You notice it and then what do you do? This is huge, peoples! And we’ll be talking about it more and more. In the meantime, read The Untethered Soul by Michael Signer. It rules. AND YOU RULE! Whether you currently know it or not… Happy practicing, and let me know if I can help!

Contraction… Optional!

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This is pretty cool… And sorry for all the posts on anxiety recently, but they’ve been coming into my world and so I share them. Here’s the deal, though – they’re SUCH good illustrations of how all feelings work; anxiety is just a more extreme version. So it’s great for teaching purposes. Here we go… So my friend has a history with his dad. They totally love each other, but my friend finds his anxiety triggered by interactions with his dad. He’s been learning about what we talk about here, though – that most of our feelings are our body giving us information about our thinking. A brilliant feedback system, if you will. So he’s learning that he’s creating the anxiety based on thinking, most of which is invisible. Like is he a failure in his dad’s eyes, that kind of thing. His body is saying, “Dude! This is what you’re thinking. Take a look and decide if this is how you want to be thinking. Make sure these thoughts are 100% true. Maybe you believe these thoughts and maybe not; I’m just trying to get your attention to make sure you can see them. Bring them to the surface and take a look.” Well said, body…

So my friend is exploring this new way of seeing things, and he noticed recently that he had been texting with his dad, but without the anxiety. Woohoo!! This is cause for a major celebration. You see, anxiety is a contraction of the body. The body is tightening up and closing. This is how the body reacts to thinking such as, “I’m probably somewhat of a failure in my dad’s eyes. And he is totally qualified to be a universal judge of failure.” Both of these statements are probably wrong, by the way. And even if the first one is right, the second one is always wrong! So it nullifies the first one. But the body will still contract if this is what we’re thinking.

My friend now knows the rules of the game, though. He has learned Human 101. So he’s been able to ask his body what kind of thinking is responsible for the anxiety around his dad. And thoughts like the ones above have floated right up to the surface for viewing. They’ve been been brought from being unseen to being seen, and the anxiety is the reason why. Thank you, anxiety! Thank you, feelings! What valuable information to be given. And he was able to process these thoughts, either by himself or by talking to someone like me. He was able to think about them with his good source of thinking that’s built-in. The high quality thinking that came with the package. Call it inner wisdom or common sense, same thing. He is able to ignore the chatter and only listen to this, his inner best friend. A wise version of himself that’s always been there. And he’s seeing that he has been believing lots of false thoughts. Lots of 1+1=3. And he isn’t doing that anymore. And how do we know? Because the same text conversation with his dad that used to trigger anxiety doesn’t anymore. Or it triggers less of it. Good job, dude!

And here’s what it looks like if it comes back. He notices the anxiety while interacting with his dad, and instead of shutting down and thinking, “Oh no, it’s back” he relaxes into it right away. And he says to himself, “Yes! Sweet! There must be some more BS I can see. I know how this works now, so I’ll just take a look under the hood of my mind. But first, I’ll relax my body and totally open it, using lots of breath and putting the breath in the tight places. Relaxing and opening, relaxing and opening. And then I’ll take a look. But I don’t have to identify with this feeling right now or be afraid of it. I’m going to relax into it instead. It’s not me; it’s just by body giving me a temporary feeling to get my attention, so no big deal. I’m going to relax my body and see if I can handle this same exact situation, but without such a heavy feeling.” So cool…

Send this to people with anxiety, please! Let’s eradicate this. It is not a condition of the body. It is not a disease or a disorder. It is actually a really awesome illustration of how our body is constantly reacting to what’s going on in the mind. It is a really awesome illustration of how powerful our minds are. Our thinking, in an instant, can cause tight muscles, pounding heart, sweating, stomach issues, etc. Wow! I’ve just seen too much now, and I’ve seen too many people get better, with this simple understanding. And then practice, lots of practice. But you’re going to live anyway, so might as well practice. So cool… Peace out, and let me know if I can help!