Hallelujah, Client’s Religious Views Improve!

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I teach a couple of classes a week at an inpatient rehab near Pensacola called Gulf Breeze Recovery. I’ve written a little bit about it before. The paperwork wore me down, so I’m not seeing clients there anymore. It’s heavily regulated by the state, so it’s not their fault… I’d say a bit too regulated, though. All that paperwork sure makes it hard to help people. I doubt it’s been changed much since the 80’s, either. But I digress… I guess I should breathe instead of go into a rant. That was fun, though. (Breathing now…)

My classes there are generally pretty fun and interesting. I talk about some of the cases at my coaching/counseling practice, and that’s very educational for them. And we cover just about everything else that’s pertinent to the human experience and our innate wisdom and peace. I also like to bring in some things that are meant to expand their minds. Like some of the findings of frontier science described in the amazing book The Field by Lynne McTaggart. We’ve covered meditation, quantum physics, Fibonacci numbers, and near death experiences that have the out of body experience. I’ve promised to write about all of that here, and I admit that I have not yet. It’ll come, though, in due time.

All of what I mentioned is presented as what seem to be facts, not opinions. If a woman who was blind from birth dies in a hospital and is brought back to life, and she’s still blind, but she can describe the hospital room in detail, then that means we are not a body and death is literally not real. Done. I don’t need any more evidence. That just has to have happened once (and it has). And if you think it was a hallucination of the brain due to lack of oxygen, I think that’s a pretty lame explanation with a very low probability. She saw what was in the room, including her own body for the first time! And if you still have doubts, read Proof of Heaven by Dr. Eben Alexander (it’s not religious, by the way). He debunks the brain hallucination thing.

Now, I present all of this stuff with a big disclaimer since we’re in the Deep South. I tell them that they are perfectly free to hear or watch anything they want. They decide what they believe. They don’t have to protect or defend any beliefs, especially religious beliefs. And I’m not trying to push anything on them, either. I’m very clear about that. I’m simply sharing some very cool stuff that I’ve learned about and that has helped me.

One of the guests was about to graduate and go home after 6-8 weeks there, and she told me that she really got a lot from my classes. That always warms the heart to hear. Then she said that one of the biggest changes was that she had eased up on her religious views. She was still Christian, but she was a deeper Christian, if that makes sense. She was more Christ-like. She no longer felt the need to defend the status quo. She could even see more deeply to the deeper meanings. She was able to feel the meaning more and get below the surface. And she could see the tremendous amount of man made stuff that clearly did not come from the Divine. That’s the case with every religion and spiritual tradition, by the way. Somebody “gets it” and their followers do not. They do their best, but they’re not the awakened or enlightened one. It’s just not the same. They do all of this writing and teaching and rule-making, but it didn’t come from the Source. This is why it’s best to go to the mystics of any tradition and check out what they have to say. They’re closer to the Source. Experience beats theology any day.

Anyway, I was very pleased that she shared this with me. She’ll get so much more out of her religion now. And she’s tapping into the truth that what she’s been looking for has been inside of her the whole time. That’s why she can discern the Divine from the man-made junk. She has an inner GPS that she’s learning how to use. And we all have that same GPS (there’s only one of them). Her GPS was always working, but she wasn’t paying attention to it because the man-made noise was too loud. She even told me this. She said she knew that there was a bunch of junk in her religion, but she couldn’t admit it at the time. Her identity was too tied up in it. Now she was beginning to know that her identity was far beyond any religion. It was already set in stone, and it was good. And it was not a frail body that’s only temporary. We’ll go into more detail about all of that, but for now I just wanted to share her experience of loosening her grip on her religious views and opening. Now she can see truth anywhere. And that’s a way cooler way to roll. I love my job…

Anxiety Specialist??

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A client came to see me for anxiety issues. She was having panic attacks at work that were messing up her job attendance and performance. We made good progress right away, slashing some of the anxiety from the weeks before. It ended up being tied to her husband, who doesn’t seem like the best guy from my eyes. At least he was not a fit for her. And he seems to act like a child. Her panic attacks were reduced to the day before he came home, like clockwork (he worked out of town). She finally ditched him, and no more clockwork panic attacks. She felt like a new person after that.

She really wanted to nip this anxiety stuff in the bud, so she saw an “anxiety specialist.” Maybe she had set it up before she split from the dude, I’m not sure. And I put that in quotes because the doctor turned out to be and anxiety medication specialist. Big difference. She came to see me the next time with three new prescriptions. Two were to be taken daily, and the third was as needed. I immediately thought this was ridiculous. I can see the as needed one, but this woman does not need to be on two other meds daily. No way, not even close.

So I asked about the panic attacks since the last time we met. Since she split from the guy, she’d had only two. That’s pretty awesome. Now, I teach that we’re feeling our thinking. And anxiety is a feeling. That means the cause of the anxiety is our thinking. The two panic attacks she had fit this to a tee. And medication is not necessary; just breathe and observe your thinking. Seriously.

The first one was when she was looking for a new house to rent. She has a dog that most landlords will not allow, so this became very frustrating. She started to freak out in her head, and this freak out lead to her convincing herself that she was going to be homeless. Yes, that’s what her thinking was. And what was the feeling behind that? A panic attack. Makes sense, doesn’t it? As she was telling me this, I had her breathe and relax. Let’s stick to the facts. She had a couple of months, for one thing. There was no rush. And another fact was that getting rid of this dog was not an option. The dog actually helped her greatly with her anxiety. As we breathed and relaxed and stuck to the facts, space was cleared out. That lets our innate Wisdom comes to the surface. And do you know what happened next? She had the idea of getting the dog registered as an emotional support dog. That’s what the dog was anyway, so why not? Then she could not be turned down. We did this and she was good to go, problem solved. No more homeless thinking, no more panic attack.

The second panic attack is the hilarious one. It occurred when she saw the “anxiety specialist.” In his office, I think! That’s what my notes say, anyway. First of all, the people in his waiting room looked like “a bunch of junkies in their pajamas.” That’s no disrespect to junkies or people who wear pajamas in public, but you get the idea of what’s going on here. Med-seeking is a MAJOR issue in this country and definitely here in Florida. Then when she saw the doctor, she told him that she definitely did not want to treat this with meds. So he gave her three different ones. Might as well be thorough! He’s an older doctor, for what it’s worth, so he was trained differently than the younger ones. Which still isn’t great, I don’t think. But it seems to be improving at least. Let’s treat the cause and not the symptoms, people!

The doctor also said she had to quit drinking caffeine (ditching coffee ain’t happening anytime soon her her – and he did not say to cut back but to quit). He also said she had to quit smoking and that she should get her thyroid checked. So her thinking instantly became this: I have to quit drinking coffee now, which seems impossible. I have to quit smoking now, which seems impossible. My thyroid might be screwed up, and who knows what that means? And I have to take these meds (which was not true – she didn’t have to take anything and she actually hasn’t taken them to this day except the “as needed” one sparingly). And since we’re feeling our thinking, so you know what feeling that thinking had? A panic attack. Makes sense, doesn’t it?

We handled everything pretty well and she felt much better about things. And regarding the coffee and cigarettes, I said why not just try to dial it back a bit. Don’t make a big deal about it, though. She’s doing very well now, and she’s seeing more and more that the cause of how she feels is actually her thinking. And I’ve really encouraged her to read Somebody Should Have Told Us by Jack Pransky to get this down. It’s so important. She’s done great, though, and I’m proud of her. Work is going well for her, and she’s feeling her innate peace more and more. It sure is a good thing she saw that “anxiety specialist” or she never would’ve gotten better…