Where Do We Go From Here?

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Where do we go from here?

Hello good folks 🙂 I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus this past month and am back to talk some about where we’re headed. And I have no clue! It’s been a super, super busy summer for me. This whole year has flown by like no other, in fact, and I’ve travelled more this year than in quite some time. And honestly, I’m uncertain about what’s next regarding this blog or where I take my work. I really want to reach a larger audience, that’s for sure. And when I look back at how far we’ve come since that first post on January 5, 2012, I’m just in awe. I did not see this coming! And “this,” of course, refers to our understanding of healing through self-love, and letting the universe guide everything. And of course that same force is still every bit as alive and intact right now as we speak, guiding my future and the future of this work.

One thing that’s interesting is that when I started this, it was all about the mind. It was all about listening to that quieter voice deep inside rather than the incessant “voice in the head.” As our work morphed into this radical form of self-love, though, the mind has no longer been an issue. In fact, the mind ceased to be an issue long before that, just because we were switching the radio station so much and listening to our wisdom. And by loving the thinker and even talking to it as a parent would lovingly talk to a child in need of love, it just speeds everything up. And I had absolutely no clue about any of that back when I started all of this…

So to summarize, I have a blog and business and brand called A Clean Mind, but it’s not even about the mind anymore! What? And I love my logo. Thank you, thank you, thank you always to Sarah Davidson… love it… But it feels pretty clear that it’s time for something new. And the brand or name or whatever it is might just be me, sharing whatever it is that I share as my journey twists and turns.

Another thing that’s interesting is that by the end of the year, it will have been seven years of sharing here with these blog posts. And I’ve loved it! Like, a lot. Wow. But things often happen in seven-year cycles. Hmmm… So I think what I’m going to do is keep blasting away for now, finishing up some unfinished posts and also seeing what new stuff wants to come up. And of course I’ll continue to practice relaxing into the universal power that’s in charge, and loving any part of me that’s impatient or frustrated or scared or worried or curious or whatever. And that’s how healing happens. I’ll also continue to ask what only the next step is, the next action – and not the whole damn path. Because as much as the little planner and fixer and problem-solver in my head innocently wants to know the whole thing, it just doesn’t work that way! And being a math major Virgo, I’m totally NOT wired to “relax into it” and trust. So trust me, everything I share here and everything I share with my clients is exactly what I’m practicing and living. We’re on the same journey, and I’m no different than you. I’m just super curious and have a very deep drive to share so that we can all be happier as a planet.

So there you go! We’ll see where things go from here, and I’m just as curious as anyone. I’m naturally a teacher and helper and sharer (I think that’s a word…), and this message is sorely needed in this wild and crazy world. There are many people that come into my office or hear a talk and bam, they’re changed right away from this practice of “loving what arises” that’s so simple, gentle, and yet so powerful. And I know that there are literally millions of these people out there that are so ready! That want this and need it! And if I can help, then I really want to reach them. When one of those people walks out of my office that first time, sometimes I literally get on my knees and beg the universe, “Bring me more!!!” It just feels so good. So we’ll see what goes down. And in the meantime, I’ll keep posting here. So… much love to you, much respect for your journey, and as always, I’m here to help if I can. Peace out!

A Talk This Tuesday!

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Hello folks, I’m giving a talk this Tuesday, August 7 and apparently I forgot to mention it here. Uhh…. So here we go! It’s called Welcome To The Love Revolution!, and it’ll be at the 4-Squared Holistic Studio in Pensacola from 6-7:30. It’s near Target across from Cordova mall, and it’s a very cool space owned by four unique holistic practitioners. The address is 5043 Bayou Blvd, 32504. And to sign up, send $20 via PayPal to em8807@bellsouth.net. And tell your friends!

Otherwise all is really good, the work keeps getting more transformational, it’s been a super busy summer, lots of traveling for work and pleasure both, the tan is pretty solid, and wow isn’t 2018 flying by?! I still have dreams of reaching a larger audience, so I’m looking into packaging my stuff into sellable forms, like maybe an online program and certainly a book or books at some point. So that’s my dream! Then get one of this badass little RVs and cruise around (always based in Pensacola, though, of course – it’s where my heart is).

In the meantime, it’s a joy and an honor to be able to help people with sessions and these writings and now more and more talks. The talks are super fun, so I hope you can make it sometime. And if you don’t live in Pensacola, then maybe we can do one where you live someday. Anyway, all the best to you. If peace is still elusive for you, then go back through the posts here because we’ve covered some serious ground in the recent months. So hopefully there’s something there to support you on your journey. And as always, let me know if I can help, because that’s what I’m here for. Enjoy the end of summer, and peace to you 🙂

How To Heal & Clear The Past

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“Heal and clear the past…” That has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it? Doesn’t that just sound and feel amazing? I sure think so! Well, that’s exactly what we’ve been doing here, and I thought we could really spell it out using those two words. I just love how they sound, really showing us the big picture of what we’ve been doing for a while now. So this is how I see it…

We know that “loving what arises” is the cornerstone of everything. And we know that the intelligent universe puts us in the exact situations we need to be in (i.e. “triggers” us) to cue up whatever inside of us needs love. When we love that part of ourselves, we’re literally healing it, melting it, welcoming it home. One at a time. And yes, I know the line can seem endless, but thankfully it’s not. So this is what “healing the past” means. You give loving attention to the part of you that needs it in any moment. Because you can think of the part of you that’s showing up as a “you” from the past that didn’t get treated how it wanted to get treated. And when it gets the love that it needed back then, it’s healed. And in this manner we love ourselves to wholeness, retrieving all the fragmented parts of ourselves and melting them back into our heart. And we don’t have to dig, because the universe will do it for us. Just let the river of life take you. So cool. Also note that this works with big or small stuff. The big stuff will take more time and more loving attention, for sure, but this is still the answer.

As far as “clearing” the past, that’s nothing more than the energetic vacuum cleaner (EVC) in action. A purge of old emotional debris is happening, as the cells of your body are literally being scrubbed clean. So you love the one in pain and go on about your day, thinking “yay me!” Because a deep cleaning is taking place in your energy field, and that rocks. And the mind that wants to fix it has absolutely nothing to do. Remember there’s an entire post about exactly this. As I’ve written and said before, that crappy feeling IS the fix, because it’s clearing out old sludge you’ve been innocently carrying around to make room for more light to move into your body and take up residence. What’s more, it’s my understanding that what you’re clearing is also old energies and patterning from your entire family lineage. That’s right, from your entire family lineage. Why you? Because you can, because you’re evolved enough to take on that responsibility. Hang in there and love yourself through it, and just let it happen. You’re clearing the past, and that’s awesome. Yay, you!

So maybe this way of phrasing things, “healing and clearing the past,” sheds a little more light. Maybe it lets you know what a big job you’ve been doing. Maybe it helps you see that you’ve actually been kicking ass. Maybe it gives you a sense of accomplishment. And maybe the part about doing it not just for you but for so many others that couldn’t do this work – maybe that gives you a sense of nobility and self-respect. And it’s okay to wish it were over and done with! Just love the part of yourself that feels that way, and go on about your day. And as always, let me now if I can help.

The Baby Analogy

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I’ve recently had several clients really “get” how to love their hearts by using the analogy of a newborn baby or infant, or a young child of any age. And yes, sometimes a teenager… Because the truth is that most of us have been either super mean to ourselves for a long time or super neglectful. So think about an infant, a beautiful, fragile baby that’s in its crib, cooing and smiling. Would you ever even consider being mean to one of those? And yes, since I’m not a kid person I thought it’d sound funny to refer to it as an object… “one of those” and “it.” But still, I’d never consider being mean to it! No way; it’s just so innocent.

So here’s the connection – so is your heart. No matter who you are or what you’ve done, there’s an innate innocence built in that’s always there, deep inside of you. Amazing, but true! And that’s what we’ve been talking about loving this whole time. So see if that deepens things or connects the dots more. I’ve had several clients recently have a major “aha moment” with this, though. And what a difference that can make, because it shifts you from being so hard on yourself to just being neglectful to finally being your own main supporter, cheerleader, and best friend. And your whole life transforms, big time. It’s truly amazing for me to watch in so many people. This is the shift… the sweet, innocent baby. Just be open to it and ponder it a bit, try it on for size and see what happens. And no rush! Take the rest of 2018, in fact, to play with this. Happy practicing! And as always, I’m here to help if I can.

Love & Suicide

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I thought I’d written about this before, but apparently not. I couldn’t find it in a search, anyway. It’s kind of cool that this blog has gone on long enough now, with so many posts, that I forget what’s been written about and what’s not. The “me” that wrote that first post way back in January 2012 could not have imagined where we’d be now! Which is so cool… But what’s not cool is all these people taking their own lives. Again, I meant to write about this years ago. Even if I had, though, it’d be time to talk about it again now, because enough is enough. For one, I’m working with clients that are suicide survivors. Then a couple of weeks ago, I ran into my cousin and he said an old friend of his had recently committed suicide out of the blue. Then Kate Spade hung herself, maybe the next day. And then Anthony Bourdain did the same a few days after that. Anthony Bourdain?? Wow… And of course the daily suicide rate of military personnel, whether active duty, reserve, or retired, is beyond comprehension (don’t even get me started on their mental health “treatment”). What’s going on here??

So I’m going to write some stuff that might help someone, might not. It’ll just be my own thoughts on the matter. I’m no expert, but I can say from my own experience that I can see how someone would want to do it. And I haven’t talked about this with many people, so if you are shocked then all good! I’m totally fine. Just keep reading, because it was an essential part of my path. As I’ll explain, I was never actually suicidal, but I’ve absolutely seen how someone would want to do it. Because the pain has been unbearable. And yet I’ve been able to bear it. That’s the thing, it doesn’t seem like it’s possible to survive in the moment. But thankfully, it always is.

When I was younger, I never would’ve thought I’d be able to say I’d be able to empathize with someone that was suicidal. No way! I was always really happy and full of joy and on the go all over the place, having a really fun time. And I was usually hanging out with people that were similarly inclined. Then the spiritual journey began, and it eventually led to some pain that I didn’t know existed. I didn’t know how to love myself through it, and I also didn’t know that my energy field was being purged so that more light could enter. And when your pain is spiritual pain, it really sucks. That’s because your problem is with the Universe/God/Source. And if that’s who your problem is with, and you’re not getting any answers, then where else can you go?? You’ve already gone to the top! So you’re screwed, sitting there in massive pain and feeling all alone. Not cool.

I also didn’t know that I was experiencing hell so that I could identify with it and thereby help others through it. I didn’t know I was experiencing it so that I could be a living testimony that you can get through it and end up feeling better than you ever have before. And it sure has helped me do my job, because even some clients in just the last couple of weeks have started arriving on the shores of peace after experiencing their own hell, their own purge, their own dark night of the soul. And I’m so glad I’ve been able to help them through it. And let’s be clear – to see someone go through that and come out better and shinier than ever, even having gratitude for whatever caused them to feel so bad because of how much they transformed – that feels amazing!

So how do we get there? How does one go from the lowest of lows to feeling strong and vibrant? Because that potential does exist in everyone. I’m not saying it’s easy, not at all; but it’s there. And it involves everything that we’ve been talking about for the last year here. You see, how you feel comes from how you feel about yourself. How you feel comes from how you feel about yourself. And people that feel good don’t commit suicide. So by sharing what we’ve been calling “loving what arises,” we can really make a difference with the suicide rate. And understanding the energetic reality of even the lowest of low feelings is huge. It’s energy, and it wants to move; it has to move. And when we’re loving the one in pain and knowing about the raw energetic nature of pain, moving turns into leaving. So it’s always temporary, even when it seems like it’s been around for so long. And as we love the parts of ourselves that hurt, they heal, one by one. And after a while there are no more to heal. But well before that, you’re living an amazing life that’s miles and miles away from suicide. Hells yes.

My dream is that this stuff makes its way into our educational system at some point, because that would really make a dent in the suicide rate. And who knows, maybe I’ll play a role in that someday. Corporate America could use this information as well – big time – and that’s also something that I’m thinking about. Let’s spread the word. So share this with anyone that could use it! Suicide is said to be a permanent solution to a temporary problem. But it’s not even a permanent solution, because my understanding is that the unresolved pain goes with the soul to the next place they go. It’s all good, though, because they’ll either work it out there or they’ll come back here to work it out. It’ll get worked out either way, and there will eventually be a happy ending; I know that.

But we’re here now, so screw it, let’s do the work and get on with it. Let’s get on with it, right here and right now. And the things we talk about here at A Clean Mind really are powerful and they really are answers to suicide. How you feel comes from how you feel about yourself. How you feel comes from how you feel about yourself, and it’s my honor to help people see how innocent they truly are. To help people see that earth ain’t easy, and that they actually have been doing their best this whole time. Yes, my best has sucked before, too. It can take some time to get this and there can be some growing pains, but the truth is the truth. And the truth is good. And the truth is YOU. So hang in there, give this some time and practice, and as always, let me know if I can help.

A Super Powerful Doorway Into Self-Love: “I’m Sorry”

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Okay folks, I’m excited – because this can be really, really powerful. You see, sometimes “I love you” isn’t what our heart wants to hear for whatever reason. It could be that due to something from the past, those words are attached to a feeling that’s not very good. Sometimes people have said “I love you” before or after hurting us, for instance, leaving us confused. Or it could just be that you’re new to this whole self-love thing, this whole “be super nice to yourself” thing, and your innocence, your inner child, doesn’t believe you yet when you say “I love you.” And no worries, by the way, because it will eventually believe you and will relish those words! Keep showing up and it’ll absolutely shift, and it doesn’t take forever. But in these cases, we might need something that’s better equipped to get our foot in the door. And that’s where “I’m sorry” comes into play.

NOTE: If the words “I’m sorry” are attached to something that’s not good, then of course disregard. There’s always something that your heart yearns to hear, though. Just ask it. I’d also read (or listen to) Whatever Arises, Love That by Matt Kahn and see the “personal love statement.” It’s tailor-made just for your heart in any moment. Because you’re the one that comes up with it! Back to the story…

“I’m sorry” is what we can tell our heart for anything that was difficult to survive. It could be big or small. It could be old or new. It could be something for which you are responsible, or it could be something with which you had nothing to do at all. “I’m sorry” is just an amazing way to give our heart the loving attention it needs, for anything that was tough to deal with, tough to survive. And it feels amazing! It feels honest. It feels powerful. It feels simple. It feels good.

I had a tough experience at boarding school when I was sixteen years old, for instance, an experience of rejection and loneliness for which I was not at all prepared. It was part of my path, of course, to experience this. And at times it really, really sucked! It was also my first “spiritual awakening,” by the way – pain and awakening often go hand in hand in this day and age, and beings like us are actually here to help humanity evolve to a point where pain is no longer necessary for growth. Anyway, this was the first thing that popped in my mind when I heard about “I’m sorry.” So I just told that sixteen-year-old, “I’m sorry you had to experience that, I’m so sorry. I know that was really painful. You did not deserve that. I’m sorry.” And my heart just opened up and melted.

gave a talk last night and we closed our eyes and did this. I guided the folks there through something like, “I’m sorry for anything you’ve had to experience that was difficult [breathing love into the heart]. Anything at all [breathe it in]. Whether I was responsible or not, I’m sorry [breathe it in]. I’m so sorry [breathe it in]. You didn’t deserve that [breathe it in]. I’m here for you now, and I’ll always be here for you [breathe it in].” Very powerful!

So there you go, folks, the practice of “I’m sorry.” Give it a shot anytime, anyplace, and maybe you’ll feel a melting, a warmth, a comfort, a strength, an opening, a feeling of safety and security. If not, no worries – your heart might be a bit angry or suspicious if you’ve never really done this. That’s how it was for me the first time I told my heart “I love you,” that’s for sure! I started crying because it was super obvious that I had NEVER done anything remotely close to that. So I was honest with my heart, telling it, “I”m sorry, but I had no idea. Nobody’s ever told me to do this and I’ve never thought to do it naturally. But I’m here now and I’m not going anywhere. And I’m going to love you in whatever way you need me to. So please teach me, and I understand if you’re mad. Be as mad as you need to be, and I’m not going anywhere.” So cool! So give it a shot if you feel too. And know that your heart knows exactly what it needs to hear. And know that this practice can CHANGE YOU FAST. For real… Happy practicing, and as always, let me know if I can help.

Flipping Desire

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This is really cool, folks. We’re going to take another look at desire to see if we can have a totally different experience of it. And yes, it comes from listening to Matt Kahn, which I kind of do a lot these days… For like the last nine and a half months straight… Whoa, the gestation period of a human baby, interesting. Well, not straight, because when you’re full that means it’s time to take a break and let things integrate, let what you’ve learned sink in. After all, the slow way is the fast way. And then when you feel ready again, you pick up where you left off. And that’s how it works. It’s just like when you water the grass, if you keep watering for too long the water will puddle up; it needs to sink in before it’s time for more water. So many of us are shifting so fast – really fast! – and we need periods of rest and integration. Back to the story… Oh, wait – first let me tell you that this comes from Matt’s Becoming The Beloved retreat from October 2017 that I’ve written about that’s been on sale for $99. For sixteen hours of these ridiculous, transformational talks. Do it! Here we go…

There are many of us that tend to experience desire as lack, a reminder of what we don’t have. And that doesn’t feel good. The thought pops in that we want something, and then we feel bad because we don’t have it. We’re always practicing loving what arises here at A Clean Mind, so it can certainly help to love the part of us that feels this way; we always align with the breath first (fancy words for “take a deep breath”), and we love what arises. Giving some loving attention to the one inside that feels lack can never hurt, and it can even help you start feeling better immediately.

But let’s take it to the next level. And note that some Law of Attraction (LOA) folks will be familiar with this. I’d recommend putting what you know aside for now, though, so you can check this out with fresh eyes. I’ll address LOA a bit below, and I’m sure we’ll address it more later in a post called The New Law Of Attraction. Because we’re in a new paradigm now with new rules, so let’s start fresh. And anything you already know will still be there to pick up again anyway, so there’s no pressure, no risk. Back to the story…

So let’s experiment with something besides desire being an experience of lack. Let’s flip desire and let it be a good experience, a fulfilling one, rather than an unpleasant one. And this will happen energetically, because feeling is energy. And even when you do get what you want, it’s not the thing itself but rather the feeling of having it that you’re truly after. So even if you don’t have something physically, you can still have the experience energetically. What??

So actually feel the desire; feel that energy in your body. Let it flow, let it move. You might even close your eyes and imagine that you already have whatever it is that you want (and please, if you’re driving then either don’t close your eyes or pull over, thanks). When you do this, it can feel really amazing! Again, that’s because you’re having the same experience energetically. Then just go on about your day, with that nice feeling lingering.

This is where we have to be sharp, though, and this is where we’ll deviate from some of the LOA thought process. Because our foundation is that the universe is super smart and it knows what’s best for us in every moment (that’s actually the new law of attraction, by the way, that you’re already attracting exactly what you need for your soul to grow in the most efficient way). The universe is in charge of what I have and what I don’t have, not my ego (even if it’s a fancy spiritual ego like the one that’s unraveling in me!). The more we’re rooted in this understanding, the more we can let the feeling of desire be a fulfilling, positive energetic experience of having what we want. And then we just go on about our day feeling good and spacious. But the LOA stuff generally moves right into thoughts like this: “How do I make it happen? I need to get that. I need to manifest it. Why is it not here? Why is it taking so long?? Why do I suck at manifesting? Am I being punished?! Was I a major jerk in my past lives?” And that kind of thinking, even more subtle versions (I exaggerated to make it clear – but trust me, many people do think that way), feels awful.

The LOA folks tend to go right into manifesting mode, in which they need to do some work to make it happen, to bring what they want into reality. And then there’s judgment if it doesn’t work or if it takes a long time. But here’s the deal, it’s the ego that’s doing all that fancy dance, not the soul. It’s like having a five-year-old with the car keys, about to crank up the engine. Not the best plan! It’s totally innocent, so innocent, just wanting desperately to help. And it’s part of everyone’s journey (present company included, big time!). But it’s not the best plan.

So let’s shift to how the soul sees things. Because with the assumption that the universe is in charge – meaning it’s totally fine that I don’t have it, of course I don’t have it, because clearly I’m not supposed to have it at this time! – that game is all out the window. We don’t have to do that anymore. I’ve played that game, and I know for a fact that many people that do end up judging themselves mercilessly. They’re always needing this or that, and peace is nowhere to be found. Wanting it, and then enjoying the feeling of imagining having it, and then going about your day – that’s where the peace is. Wanting leads to more wanting; having leads to more having. Breathe with that for a bit, because it really blew me away when I first heard it. What we’re doing now is having the experience. And then we’re going about our day. Done.

Another take is that desiring something is a preview of what life already has in store for you. That’s pretty interesting… But you have to be prepared to receive it first, and sometimes that requires change. Maybe our desires, then, are what the universe uses to lead us into growth. So the preparation time can be long or short, and it has nothing to do with your manifesting abilities. This really is that separate post called The New Law Of Attraction, which we’ve pretty much covered already. So much more simple. When you notice a desire, shift right to the feeling of having it. But not to make it come to you (that’s the universe’s job), but just to have a nice experience in that moment. Then just go on about your day, knowing that you’re being prepared to receive it. And anytime a part of you shows up that says, “But I don’t have it and I want it,” just love that little one on the spot. And… go on about your day.

By the way, “little buddy” and “little honey” have become the names I’ve been using in sessions and in talks when talking about our heart, our inner child. And it’s become sort of a running joke, because it sounds so cheesy and ridiculous. But it works! So maybe that’s another blog post. And there might be another one called “Then Just Go On About Your Day.” Because that’s a big theme, too. Stop over-analyzing everything! And I will, too. Just keep moving forward. See how bad you can do it (because you probably can’t). If you really need a certain insight or thought, it’ll pop in much better the less you try.

So there we go, folks, the tale of Flipping Desire. Test this out and play with it. And here’s a final thing to point out that’s really important – there will often be a part of you that feels a burn when you make the choice to dive into the energetic experience. If not, great, but if so, then it’s just that little ego that thinks it needs it now. So… let it burn, a very loving burn. It’s just some innocent smallness in you that you no longer need. Love the burning one and move on. And in short time, those old energies will be cleared out and you really will start to have the nice energetic experience of having what it is that you want without any sense of lack. You’ll also become more rooted in the fact – FACT! – that the universe is in charge, not your ego, and it knows exactly what it’s doing. And your whole relationship with desire will change, because you’ve flipped it from a negative experience of lack to an experience that is fulfilling. And do you know what will happen then? You’ll just go on about your day.

More Honesty: Don’t Let It Go!

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We recently wrote about honesty, and we talked about being honest with how our heart truly feels. Whether we want it to feel that way or not. As an example, we talked about how affirmations actually don’t work for many people, and it’s because there’s an issue with honesty. Nobody is trying to be dishonest; it’s just that they’re not fully acknowledging how their heart feels. And when they don’t actually believe what they’re affirming, the inner child calls BS, and that ends up not feeling good. And then we wonder why we suck at affirmations. Hilarious! When you know what’s happening, anyway…

The good news is that we can simply switch to an honest version of the same affirmation. So if “I have perfect health” feels good, then that’s fantastic. But if not, then just change it to whatever is honest and true for you in that moment: “I want perfect health,” “May I be blessed with perfect health,” or “May all beings have (or be blessed with) perfect health.” In each case, the vibration of ‘perfect health’ is being anchored more and more deeply in your mind. And since it’s honest, it feels good.

Another example came to mind, and it’s the old teaching of “let it go.” So let’s take a deeper look. What if you can’t let it go? What if there’s a part of you that just can’t seem to let it go? No matter how much you want to let it go, there’s a part of you that cannot do it! What do you do then? What most of us do is ignore that part. Or maybe we try harder to let it go, and we end up judging ourselves because it’s not working very well. Whether consciously or not, we’re denying the part of ourselves that’s having trouble. We’re ignoring it and insisting that we have to let it go. And when we do this, our heart gets pissed… And the inner child actually has the power to turn up the heat in our lives in an effort to get our attention – exactly like a child might do by acting out to get its parents’ attention. (We’ll be talking about this more in future posts, by the way, how the inner child is actually the whole universe dressed in a baby costume trying to get your attention; amazing, but true – and very, very powerful). So honesty is a very important part of our path, and again, I mean honesty with how we truly feel. We don’t have to like it, but we have to be an open space for it if we want it to heal and shift.

So once again it comes back to your heart, your inner child, and its deep need and longing for your acknowledgment and attention. Acknowledgment that you see how it feels and that whether you agree or not, you’re always going to be there for it with loving support. Acknowledgment that how it feels is legitimate. Notice how we’re loving what arises here? We’re seeing that a part of us just can’t seem to let it go – even if it seems trivial and we really want to be able to let it go! – and we’re being an open space for that part of ourselves. We’re saying, “I see that you can’t let it go. That’s okay, and I’m here for you regardless. I’m sorry that you can’t let this go, and I love you no matter what.” Can you feel how different that is? It sure beats Judgement City, in which we’re wondering, “What the hell is wrong with me; why can’t I let this go!!”

So there’s another example in case it can help. The new paradigm that we’re in is one of extreme honesty, honesty with our heart and how it feels. It’s like an innocent little baby, and it needs our loving attention and support… always. Whether we want it to be different or not. This feels better, and I’ll bet the external circumstances of your life will shift more as well when you think and act this way. And even if this feels difficult or strange or even impossible, you can absolutely learn how to do this. How do I know? Because I have! And I am. It just takes your willingness to gently practice, with no concept of success or failure and no time frame.

Before we go, let me make sure we’re clear that this has nothing to do with the outer world, nothing to do with the external. It’s all about the internal, your inner child and how it feels. It’s all about noticing how your heart feels and giving it some loving attention. So do what you feel is best regarding the other person involved or whatever the situation is that you’re having trouble letting go of. And often times what’s best is to take a timeout to love your heart. Postpone dealing with the situation if you can and tend to your own emotional needs. And then the “you” that will revisit the situation later will be a totally different “you.” An upgrade! And many times, the situation will change or shift on its own. It’s really cool how that works.

So give it a try, and as always, let me know if I can help. And now I will let this laptop go and go to the beach! I got some early season tanning work done a few weeks ago, but it’s faded. You know what they say, tone it or tan it! And I’m definitely not going to the gym anytime soon. I’m actually walking a bunch now; hey, baby steps. And honestly, even that is pretty awesome. Peace out 🙂


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Let’s talk for a bit about something that not a lot of people talk about. And that’s honesty, but in a different way. You see, lots of people learn spiritual teachings (aka personal growth, self-help, etc.) that seem awesome and seem to help at first, but then they stop working. Why? In many cases, it’s because they’re actually being dishonest with their heart. So after a while, they don’t feel good anymore and the teachings aren’t really helping. Like affirmations. The idea is great, but it’s important that we believe what we’re affirming to be true. And yes, this is contradictory to many of the Law of Attraction (LOA) teachings. I’m going to write a post called The New Law of Attraction at some point, because most of us are in a different place now with a different set of rules. I’m pretty sure the whole karma thing isn’t for us, either, and that’ll probably be a future post. Just like the rules change as you grow from elementary school to middle school, high school, college, and beyond, they also change as you grow as a soul.

Once I gave a series of talks to a group of women, and we always took questions to clarify everything. One night, one of them said that her counselor had given her some affirmations to say everyday. That might sound great, but then she said that they always made her feel worse! I smiled, because I had noticed the same exact thing with myself a long time ago while doing – or attempting to do – a similar mantra practice. I told her she felt bad because she didn’t believe the mantras. So deep down a voice was calling BS each time she said one. The dialogue might go something like this, and it’s really pretty hilarious:

Her: “I am powerful.”

Inner Child: “Bullsh*t.”

Her: “I am strong.”

Inner Child: “Bullsh*t.”

Her: “I am the Light.”

Inner Child: “Bullsh*t.”

Her: “I am abundant.”

Inner Child: “Bullsh*t.”

In calling BS, the inner child is simply saying, “I don’t believe that. You can’t fool me, so why do you keep trying? And when you say that stuff, it’s like you’re ignoring me and how I truly feel. Do I even matter to you?” Ouch. Because I’m finally learning that it’s all about our heart, all about the inner child. If the inner child ain’t happy, you’re never going to be happy; not for long, anyway. Because the inner child runs the show, trust me on that. I know, pretty crazy! But the inner child will win in the end.

So how do we make the inner child happy? By being super loving and attentive towards it, of course, as we’ve been talking about for a while now. It’s called loving what arises, and it encompasses your feelings and your thoughts. Pretty cool… But we also make it happy by being honest. Honesty with our heart is very, very important in the new paradigm that we’re in. If “I am abundant” just doesn’t feel true, then say “I want more abundance,” “I wish I had more abundance,” “May I be blessed with abundance,” or even “May all beings have abundance.” Those feel good. Why? Because they’re honest. And your heart values honesty over trying to fake it ’til you make it. Plus, it’s still bringing the vibration of abundance into your subconscious mind. In fact, my understanding is that saying those statements anchors the vibration of abundance into your subconscious mind equal to saying something like “I AM grateful for my abundance.” So just go with whichever is most true and know that it’s doing some powerful work for you.

So let’s always start where we’re at, so to speak, by being honest with our heart. Honest with how we feel. Honest with what we want. Honest, honest, honest. That’s very important, and it’ll start to feel really good. Trying to BS ourselves or BS the universe had its time, but that’s part of the old paradigm that we’re no longer in. So I wanted to address it here. Hopefully I’ll write about more examples as they come up so this can be more clear. But maybe you get the idea for now. You can say things like, “I want to be nicer to myself. I want to love myself. I want to treat people more lovingly.” That’s all honest, and it’s starting to anchor the things that you want into the subconscious mind. And that’s probably our next frontier, by the way, anchoring what we want in the subconscious mind. I’m not fully there yet, myself, so that’s still in the laboratory, so to speak. In due time, in due time. I’d say we’re at a pretty blazing pace anyway, though, so all good.

So there you go, take a look at how honest you’re being with how you feel. If you’re not being honest, it probably comes from an innocent place – like you wish things were different. But when you’re honest with your heart about that, you might start to feel better before things change. And that’s pretty powerful. So happy practicing, and again, I’ll write more examples as they come up. In fact, I think I have one that just popped in. Until then, peace out!

The Energetic Vacuum Cleaner

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There’s a phrase I’ve been using in my sessions that I’d like to introduce you to, and it’s the Energetic Vacuum Cleaner. And since I often like to shorten things up, we can also call it the EVC. And I can never remember how to spell “vacuum,” by the way – such a weird spelling. I always start with two c’s, but then I remember how weird the word is spelled, so clearly there has to be two u’s, because that’s super weird. So it ends up being “vaccuum,” but then it looks like something’s just not quite right. I’ll bet I’ll remember it now, though, since I’m writing all of this ridiculous stuff about how a random word is spelled. So go with your ridiculousness, people! Don’t hold back. Unless you’re at work… don’t get fired or anything, and if you do then please don’t blame me. Back to the story…

So we’re all carrying around old “stuff.” Which means old feelings. Which means old frequencies, or energies. A phrase I love is “emotional debris.” And what do we use to clean up “stuff?” A vacuum cleaner. So it sure would be nice to have an energetic vacuum cleaner. Well, it turns out that we do have one! What is it called? Life. The universe. More specifically, it’s when crappy things happen to you… Yay.

Remember the post not too long ago called Another Spilled Smoothie? That’s the EVC in action. When you’re triggered and you’re doing your best to just let it burn, remind yourself that the EVC is literally sucking old stuff out of your energy field, stuff you no longer need or want. You’re being cleaned out in that moment, so just surrender and let the process happen. Thinking this way might even make it so it’s okay and you’re less annoyed. And after a while, you might even like it! That’s some crazy stuff right there… But it can totally happen, because now you’re reminding yourself right away that it’s the ego unraveling and burning away, and emotional debris is being sucked from the cells of your body. Those are both very, very good things right there.

Also – and this is HUGE! – know that sludge is only leaving when more light or soul is ready to inhabit your body. You see, when more of the good stuff (your soul) is ready to enter and make a home, it needs some space. Yep, some ego needs to go. So the soul has the universe trigger you to kick in the EVC. The EVC sucks out some sludge, burning up some ego and carving out space for the light to enter. And as this happens throughout your life, you feel better and better. And life gets more and more magical. Isn’t that freaking cool???

So there we go, good folks, the Energetic Vacuum Cleaner, or the EVC. And you know what? I spelled it right the first time! And this is a short blog post. I could get used to this. Probably not, though… Anyway, much love to you and whatever is going on in your life. And as always, I’m here to help if I can.